BE THANKFUL

BE THANKFUL ”Don’t spoil what you have by desiring what you don’t have because what you have now is one of the many things you once desired for” Rasheed Byrant Just lastweek Thursday America celebrated Thanksgiving Day. Although I had always been hearing about the popular “Thanksgiving day”, I decided to get some education on the reason behind such celebration. For those who used to be like me, let’s get you enlightened. Thanksgiving Day is a holiday celebrated in the United States on the fourth Thursday in November. It has officially been an annual tradition since 1863 (over a century-149years precisely) when during the Civil War, president Abraham Lincoln proclaimed a national day of “Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in Heavens”. It’s a National Holiday. Enough of the history lessons……. Shortly before this day, my email and twitter pages were filled with a lot of anticipation from people as they prepared for this big event. It’s a time to celebrate, cook, dine, share, appreciate, laugh, relax, love, reminisce ,forgive, reunite and most importantly show appreciation and be thankful for all that you have been given. On days like this, it’s amazing how our perspective shifts from the things we don’t have to the much we have blessed with. This I believe is an approach we should adopt in our everyday life.( especially in your marriage) As the world celebrates this special season of Thanksgiving, look inward into your marriage, relationship and family and identify those things you are thankful for. Just like I posted in my previous article, (www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com/2012/11/dealing-with-weeds-2.html?m=1) a young woman was complaining of how bad her husband was at folding the laundry and she was quickly reminded of how lucky she was to have a man who even cared to do the laundry. You might not be blessed with the perfect husband, but be thankful you have a husband; He might not live up to your expectation in terms of financial provisions, but be thankful he is responsible enough to drop something; you might not like that he comes back home late everyday; but be thankful he comes homes at all. There’s an adage in Yoruba that says that “olorun o kin se nkan ko ma fi aye ope sile” it means “God never does anything without leaving something to be thankful for” and like Bishop David Oyedepo once says, you cannot be thankful without being thoughtful. That is exactly where I want to draw you too today…. The realm of being thoughtful. If you have ever lost anything, God is the reason why you have not lost anything. Someone might be thinking “My partner and I are trying to fight for our marriage”; be thankful you still have a marriage worth fighting for. Don’t underestimate what goes on around you; don’t underestimate the service your spouse renders for you; look at your everyday life and find something, anything to be thankful for. Below are some excerpts (on twitter @HusbandWifeLife) of what some people are thankful for-hopefully you will be inspired; Genny Lee @Ladyvent: I am thankful for my husband!He believes in me!Makes me want to be better person Forbidden @Cali_chosen1: My husband puts up with the good, bad and the ugly. I’m so thankful God made that man just for me Antoinette @TREmendous08: I’m thankful for my fiancé because he’s loyal, determined,hardworking,kind hearted and loves my flaws @esselcp: I’m thankful for my hubby who still finds time to cook for our 2 boys and I despite having a full time job Padiso Bilankulu @RahabMakola: I’m thankful for my husband because he is my best friend; he makes me laugh when I feel like crying Stacey Hernadez @staceystace1: I’m thankful that my husband puts my needs before his own. So blessed I found such a good man. Bottom line is this; just as it’s been said 1Thess 5:18) “Give thanks in ALL circumstances, because this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus) Your marriage/relationship is a gift, just as your spouse is, you either learn to accept their flaws or ignore them. Constantly be on the lookout for the good in them and appreciate them; after all “nobody throws away the baby with the bath water”……….. BE THANKFUL…. “ we tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have” Frederick Keonig So what are you thankful for? Lets have your feedback......... To receive daily updates from our blog, visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com OR Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 You can also send your questions, enquiry and comments to homebuilders@gmail.com Remember to get your copy of my e-book “A WISE WOMAN BUILDS” for just N1, 000.00 ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL (Prepare, Preserve & Build)

Dealing with Weeds CONTINUED ......

DEALING WITH WEEDS IN YOUR MARRIAGE CONTINUED…………. Some people are likely to think that weeds refer to big or major issues in a marriage…… I beg to differ… Weeds are actually the little things that lead to the big things. Lets take infidelity as an example… the “INFIDELITY “ in its self is not the weed, it’s the taking your spouse for granted, failure to meet his emotional needs, failure to take care of yourself and remain attractive, failure to speak his love language, these and many more are the weeds that lead to infidelity. The weeds in most cases are often small and very easy to sideline in a relationship; by the time you discover them, the damage has been done. Contrary to popular belief, weeds are not only sown by the enemy. Have you ever heard the phrase that nature harbors vacuum? I’m sure you’ve have heard severally that when you point a finger at someone, the remaining four are pointing in your direction. Those four fingers represent 75%; meaning that you are responsible for a larger portion of the weeds that grow. When searching for weeds, start with the man in the mirror. Look at your shortcomings; look for those actions of yours that build walls instead of bridges and put and end to them To receive daily updates from our blog, visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com OR Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 You can send your questions, enquiry and comments to homebuilders@gmail.com Remember to get your copy of my e-book “A WISE WOMAN BUILDS” for just N1, 000.00 ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL (Prepare, Preserve & Build)

DEALING WITH WEEDS 2

y Nancy C. Anderson I asked a girlfriend who wasrecently divorced, "When did you first notice that your marriage was in trouble?" She replied, "Looking back, I see that it had been slowly crumbling away for years. It happened so gradually that I can't even tell you when we stopped having fun or when we stopped holding hands. He started spending more time at work, and I was relieved when hecalled to sayhewouldn't behomefor dinner. We didn't have huge fights, but we were both critical and impatient. He says that he 'fell out of love' because I didn't care about his needs." "Do you think he ever loved you?" I asked. "Oh, I know he did! When we first got married, we finished each other's sentences and almost read each other's minds. We used to share all our dreams and make wonderful plansfor our future. . . . But the last few years, I got too busy with the kids and outside interests, and he poured himself into his career. Our marriage was just on auto pilot." "Then how did it crash?" I asked. "There was a woman at his officewho,hesays,waseverything I wasn't [exciting, interesting, flirtatious, and encouraging], and he left me and our two children so he could be with her. There wasn't any one big thing that killed our love, just a million little things." Her story is all too common. A verse in the Bible warns us about the small stuff: "The little foxes are ruining the vineyards" (Song 2:15 TLB). Sometimes horrific tornadoes, likethedeath of a child or mentalillness,intrudeinto our vineyards and ruin them. Perhaps they are flooded by physical or verbal abuse, but more likely, the little foxes of indifference, neglect, criticism, or score keeping creep through the hedges and rob our marriages of their fruit. Here is a little fox that sneaks into many marriages: It's easier to criticize than to praise, and it's hard to keep our mouths shut when our mate makes a mistake. Ladies, if you want your husband to enjoy your company, remember this important truth: You are not his mother. It's not your job to correct him, especially about insignificant things. We recently got a first-hand demonstration when we went to visit our neighbors. Ron asked them, "How was your vacation?" Joe said, "It was a wonderful trip! We left early to avoid the heavytraffic." Sally interrupted, "Well, it wasn't that early. It was 7:00. I remember because I looked at the clock. Did you look at the clock Joe?" "No dear, I did not look at the clock. Anyway, it felt early to me. So we drove to this rustic little mom-and-pop restaurant in the mountains and had some of the best pancakes in the world." "I can't believeyou thought those were good pancakes! I thought they were lumpy and cold and too expensive." "Okay, maybe they weren't so great, but I was hungry, so I liked them. By dinnertime, we made it all the way to the cabin. It's four hundred miles-" "Actually, dear, it's three hundred-eighty-seven miles. I looked at the odometer. Did you look at the odometer?" "No, dear, I didn't."Hesighed and continued,"Icooked up some juicy T-bone steaks for dinner and-" "We had the steaks on Friday, not Thursday. I know because I had a headache on Friday and steaks always giveme a headache." "You're giving me a headache right now. And if you don't stop interrupting me and correcting me, I'm going to quit talking." "I'm just trying to help you. I want you to get your facts right. Boy, you sure are grumpy." Joe stood up, mumbled a good-bye, and clomped out of the room. Sally said, "I don't know what's wrong with him. We haven't been getting along lately. He hardly ever talks to me anymore." That's because she kept shutting him down. He was excited about telling us his story, but with each of her corrections, he lost enthusiasm, until hefinally gave up. If you tend to be a corrector, ask yourself, "Do I want to be right, or do I want to be loved?" The divorce courts are full of lonely people who were always "right." I'm not telling you that you should never correct each other. If someone has made a serious error, pull him or her aside and whisper, "You must have forgotten that Aunt Betty's new husband doesn't like to be called by her old husband's name." In general, however, unless the slip is a biggie,let itgo. I was leading a round-table discussion at a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group. One of the women said, "I'm so upset with my husband! Just before I left the house this morning, he was taking the laundry out of the dryer and was folding the towels all wrong! I've shown him how to do it a hundred times, but he never gets it right!" I formed a "time-out T" with my hands and said, "Whoa Nellie, you're forgetting the big picture . . . . He's doing laundry! My husband hasn't washed a load of towels since Nixon was president." I took a survey of the other women, and only one of them had a hubby who was laundry literate. "You have a jewel of a husband!" I said. "Next time he's folding towels, no matter how crooked they are, I think you should give him a big kiss and a 'Thank you!'" Do you remember the story of The Boy Who Cried Wolf? If we whine about every little thing, our spouses will tune us out. Then when something serious is troubling us, they won't hear us. If we guard against the little verbal foxes and keep our vineyards safe and healthy, the fruits of our marriage will be sweet and tender. My thoughts ...... Whether we can call them Weeds or little foxes, one thing is certain, they have the ability to ruin our marriages if care is not taken. It's in our action, our reaction, what we do or that we fail to do......weeds are constantly seeking for an opportunity to grow . One way women or wives sleep or permit these Weeds is found in every CRITICISM, FINGER POINTING, BLAME SHIFTING & THE NEED TO BE RIGHT. To prevent these little foxes from destroying everything good about your marriage, you must learn to prevent them. Ask your self this question before you say a word to your husband or react to a situation next time "will my words be nuturing or destroying my marriage "? You will be suprised at how much less you have to say. Lack of communication is a weed dont give it a chance. As we continue to explore more, I'll love to hear your thoughts or personal experiences send them to homebuilderssn@gmail.com To receive daily updates from our blog, visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com OR Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 You can send your questions, enquiry and comments to homebuilders@gmail.com Remember to get your copy of my e-book “A WISE WOMAN BUILDS” for just N1, 000.00 ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL (Prepare, Preserve & Build)

DEALING WITH THE WEEDS IN YOUR MARRIAGE

DEALING WITH THE WEEDS IN YOUR MARRIAGE Last week, I talked about the need to staying awake, being on top of your game and delivering on your role as a wife, mother, companion and most importantly helper. The book of Matthew 13:24-28 shows that while the farmer slept, the enemy planted. Like I emphasized previously, you (the woman) are the farmer, and the farm represents your marriage and your home. Every time you fail to do the needful, you sleep Every time you take your partner for granted, you sleep Every time you fail to forgive your partner, you sleep Every time you declare a cold war in your house and fail to communicate with your partner, you sleep Every time you choose your job, career, or business above your partner, you sleep Every time you choose your family, friends and relative above your partner, you sleep The moment you stop nurturing, paying attention and caring to your farm (marriage), you sleep and the weeds will grow. Having said this, it’s very possible that a number of women have slept, allowed the weeds of infidelity, mistrust, abuse, anger, resentment and lack of communication to grow in their marriages and are at a loss of how to proceed. The most important tool to have if you’re in a situation as this is a good attitude…. As unusual as this may seem, the fact of life is that we are most likely to face and overcome challenges if we approach them with the right attitude….  When the farmer and his workers in the parable discovered the treacherous act of the enemy, he did not put his hand on his head and start running helter skelter; rather when his worker sought to provide rash and immediate solution, he refrained them and asked them to leave the weeds till harvest time because they might hurt the Wheat (good seed) in the process-that’s a clear definition of a good attitude. There have been so many instances where a crisis in a marriage has been worsened by taking rash actions and decision…..the discovery of weeds in your marriage is not an excuse to stop nurturing the farm. If you do, you will end up with no weed or poor quality wheat. Identify the weeds or the problem as the case may be and begin to build bridges. Identify those places where you fell asleep and come alive to your responsibilities…… make your spouse after God the most important person in your life…. Watch the way you talk to him, treat him like a kings even though you feel you feel he doesn’t deserve it, love him even when you don’t feel like it, talk to him even when he is not responding to you; tend to his needs even when he does not seem to appreciate it……. I know this is not the conventional reaction a lot of women are expecting, but I draw reference form Roman 12:2 “ don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him” (CEV) another version says, “don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think…… then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” (NLT) Marriage is God’s institution and only the application of godly principles can provide a lasting solution to every challenge you might encounter. The world’s standard is for you to give an eye for an eye, payback, if he hurts you, hurt him back, if he won’t talk to you, don’t talk to him, if he cheats on you, cheat on him too, and so on. Truth is that two wrongs don’t make a right and each time you do these things, you might think you’re pulling out the weeds, but you’re also pulling out the wheat (everything good that is left in your marriage) In the parable, the farmer’s goal was to continue to nurture and wait till harvest time when it will be easy to pick out the weeds without destroying the wheat. Likewise in your marriage, you must nurture and wait and pray. Don’t be rash with your decisions and actions. The presence of weeds is not the end of your marriage. I’ll end with 1peter3:1-2 “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives” (NLT) “If you’re a wife, you must put your husband first. Even though he opposes our message, you will win him over by what you do. No one else will have to say anything to him because he will see how you honor God and live a pure life” (CEV) That is what the bible means when it says we should not be or think like the people of this world……… don’t give more room to the devil in your marriage or your home by rashly pulling out the weeds, nurture, wait, and pray………….. The rest God will handle. To receive daily updates from our blog, visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com OR Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 You can send your questions, enquiry and comments to homebuilders@gmail.com Remember to get your copy of my e-book “A WISE WOMAN BUILDS” for just N1, 000.00 ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL (Prepare, Preserve & Build)

WHEN THE WEEDS ARE SOWN (Wake Up)

Do you remember that gooffey feeling you had when you first fell in love? The way you felt when his call came in, the way you felt when he called your name, held your hands, smiled at you? How you could not wait for his call to come in, how many times you called him in a day ; how important he was to you, & the little things that made each day wonderful. At least that was the way most people felt when they fell in love. It was a period of activity & you were doing every thing possible to keep the fire burning. Have you ever wondered where all of those feelings went to after a few years of marriage? Well I have at some point in mine. Although I've read the parable of the "Weeds among Wheat" (Matthew  13: 24-30)  but the Holy Spirit gave fresh insight. For starters, a lot of marriages are like Wheat with Weeds growing in them.  These Weeds or the little foxes like we might call them are those things that compete with or deplete the nutrient value meant for the Wheat itself. The Weeds in a marriage could be lack of mutual respect, infidelity, consistent arguement & fighting, lack of communication & so on. Bottom line, Weeds are those things with the capacity to end a marriage if not nipped in the bud early enough. Truth is that too many women worry about the presence of the Weeds ignoring how the Weeds got there in the first place .... Until you know & stop how the Weeds grow in, things would only grow from bad to worse. Matthew 13:25 says " But while everyone was asleep, an enemy came & scattered weed seeds in the field "(CEV). It's very obvious here that the Weeds did not just jump on the Farm, it was sown while everyone slept. To sleep is to let your guards down, to be unaware of your environment, to ignore, to lay back, possesing a non - chalant attitude. Thīs unfortunately is the situation in many marriages today. Too many women are asleep ; they have let their guards down & allowed the enemy sow Weeds in their Wheat. If you're finding it difficult to grasp the meaning of what I'm writing about, let me make it as relatable as possible. √ the field in this context represents your marriage √ the farmers are you & your spouse √ the Wheat / good seeds refers to every possible fruit your marriage bears ranging from trust, love, honour, faithfulness, communication, to mutual respect & so on. Those are the things you ought to nuture & groom in your marriage. They are the fruits the enemy seeks to destroy & they can only get the chance the moment you fall asleep. I started this article by talking about those things we used to do before we said "I do". Those were the actions that got & secured our partners attention ; those were the things that nutured our relationships ; those were the indications that we were awake. Every time you stop doing the things that makes your spouse feel important, you start sleeping. Marriage is not a licence to ignore your partner, neither is it a time to take each other for granted,  its a call to nuture so the relationship can be preserved & have a future. Don't ever make the mistake of thinking once you're married,  it's okay to let go "afterall your partner is not going anywhere ". It doesn't have to be infidelity, the bad seeds are sown when you stop talking, loving & caring; they become Weeds of resentment here, anger, unforgiveness and so on. As a farmer, you must keep a close eye on what's yours and take great care of it because Weeds only grow in places that have been ignored or abandoned for a long period of time. Open your eyes; love your husband & make sure he knows you love him (show him) # Call him sweet names # Engage the flattery of speech, make him feel important (because he is) # Massage his ego ladies, *wink # Call him during the day @ work,  let him know he's on your mind # Prepare his favorite meal # Make him feel like the KING he is..... The list is endless..... There are  two (2) sides to this write -up, the first of which I've already analyzed; the part where you don't sleep so the Weeds don't grow. For some of you that have farms (marriages) full of Weeds already ; don't panic because that's the second part I'll be talking about next week. Be rest assured that in Matthew 13:24-30, even after the farmer realized Weeds had been planted, it was not the end of his Farm ...... That situation is not hopeless, there's a way out .... In the meantime, stay awake!!! To receive updates from our blog, visit the blog & subscribe to follow. Follow on twitter @homebuilders012 Or send your questions, enquiry & comments to homebuilderssn@gmail.com Remember to get your copy of my e-book "A WISE WOMAN BUILDS " (N1,000) ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL (Prepare, Preserve & Build)

PREPARED FOR MARRIAGE 3

SPIRITUAL PREPARATION : Marriage is primarily & institution created by God & as such it would be foolish to enter into it without him in the equation. Before you get all excited may I say that spiritual preparation is not about binding demons, thinking about your enemies and going on a 40 day fast.? While these are spiritual activities which I have nothing against, I think it's high time we viewed things from a different point of view. Many of us are so focused on others that we lost sight of who the real enemy is - YOURSELF. We are our greatest enemy, our greatest obstacle & most of our problems are hand made -a result of our ignorance. Marriage as we all know is a journey & if I may add, a journey where self is discovered. Those who enjoy marriage the most are those who understand the requirements well ahead of time & have positioned themselves for what the future brings. Spiritual preparation here can vary from your ability to pray  , wait on God, hear his voice & every other thing that connects you to source - God. God has given us everything we need to live a life that pleases him, (2 Peter 1:3-5) including our marriage but that would be impossible without his Spirit. The most prized possession a woman can accquire is the cultivation of "the fruit if the Spirit " Your marriage can never be better than you are & if you're to make the best of it, it must start with you. If you allow the Spirit of God to mould you while you're yet single, you'll be amazed at the finished product he will deliver in your marriage. "God's Spirit makes us loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle & self controlled." Gal 5:22-23(CEV) LOVE: The first fruit if the Spirit,  refers to God's kind of love. It teaches us to love as Christ loved us. He loved us when we were yet in sin, & he loved us unconditionally. To love your partner is not only when you feel good,  God's love calls you to love even when you don't feel like it or your partner has wronged you. Maintaining this kind of love is no easy task, but if you can your relationship will be better for it..... HAPPINESS / JOY : This fruit of the Spirit is an antedote for dealing with though situations. When challenges occur in your marriage, the natural thing to do is to become sad, & gloomy ; an atomosphere that fosters the more attack from the enemy.  The Bible says "In the presence of God,  there is fullness of JOY." (Psalm 16:3) God will not dwell in an oppressive or moody environment & trust me you don't want to miss what the presence of God can do for you. Psalm 114 tells of what happens in God's presence : the sea flees (the sea represents that situation that seeks to drown you) the mountains skip like rams (the mountains represents those situation that seem like stumbling Blocks) the presence of God turns Solid rock into flowy waters (God does the impossible to a possibility) . Thirdly Isaiah 12:3 says that "it with Joy that we draw water from the well of victory " thus without Joy /happiness there's no victory. Marriage has its trials & if the devil can't break your Spirit with the challenges he throws your way, he can't break your marriage either. PEACEFUL & GENTLE : Being peaceful does not mean you're foolish, but its only in your peaceful state you can hear the voice of God; a requirment for divine direction. (1Kings 19:11-13) Being peaceful also means you don't go about provoking your partner. PATIENCE :Patience is a virtue & an essential in marriage. Ask any married woman & she'll tell you that the best in marriage comes over a period of time & you must be patient enough to wait for it. KINDNESS & GOODNESS : Showing kindness & begin good to your spouse is not an action for only when it has been earned. You must learn to act outside your emotions & conform to God's standard. FAITHFULNESS: faithfulness must be in our thoughts and action. SELF CONTROL : self control is the ability to restrain or keep yourself from acting without reasoning ; an action that has ended most marriages. Self control is keeping quiet when you want to respond ; it is the act of not returning insult when insulted; self control is the process of refining your emotions through the fire of God's word. These are the gifts you should ask from the Holy Spirit to make a better you. It's an everyday choice you can make until it becomes a lifestyle ... God's lifestyle ..... Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 or @temmynikan Visit our blog at www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com or our facebook page : Home Builders Support Network If you would like to ask a question,  need guidance or would like to share an experience,  email me @ homebuilderssn@gmail.com ® Home Builders International (Preserve, Prepare & Build) To get a copy of my e-book, "A WISE WOMAN BUILDS " send me a mail & I'll give you details on how to receive it.

PREPARED FOR MARRIAGE 2

ARE YOU PREPARED ........Continued 2) PHYSICAL PREPARATION : When I talk about physical preparation for marriage, I'm certainly not referring to a wedding gown , guest list, food & wine tasters and all sort. That's more like a preparation for a wedding ; it's a wedding planners job & in case you're wondering, there's a difference between the two (wedding & marriage) A wedding refers to the ceremony itself ; the activity where the joining of the man& woman is witnessed. A marriage on the other hand looks at the process ; what the man & woman make out of the union over a period of time. Marriage is a the journey & a wedding only marks the beginning. Your level of emotional maturity ultimatly reflects in your physical readiness. Physical readiness here does not include your height, weight, burst size & all the parameters if adolesence. Not that they are not important, they vary from one individual to the other with regards to preferences. physical preparation or readiness for the purpose of this article looks at issues such as how domesticated you are, carriage, outlook / appearances, cooking & so on... These are a number of the physical activities that married women engage in; the question you should be asking yourself now is " if I say I'm ready for marriage, can I successfully carry out those tasks? " Cooking for example, it would be absolutely ridiculous for a lady who claims she is ready for marriage to be unable to boil noodles successfully. What about cleaning, washing scrubbing & all the other activities,? "its easy to say in the age that you could easily get helps but know that they can only do so much. What happens if the maid suddenly stops the job do you begin to panick? You have nothing to loose if you decide to know the how behind these activities . There are demands that marriage will place on you physically & if you're not ready, you might crash under the weight. Sighting my example of the "fattening room " of the Efik people, (Visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com if you missed the first part of this article) the wives to be are taught on how to meet the physical demands of marriage ; from cooking , to sex .... like a friend of mine put on a blog (Reginald Bassey), the "fattening room " should be called a house of refinement. The key word here is "delibrate preparation " Watch what your mother is doing ; don't sit and Watch TV while your mum or the help makes dinner; so you don't end up putting sugar inside stew. Do the laundry from time to time, so you dont end up washing your husbands stockings with his white shirt,...these are the little things that puts you in charge of your home, commands the respect of your husband & children & puts you in a position to teach your own children. Nobody will wake up one morning & show you everything neither does every culture have the "fattening room ". You are solely responsible for the way you turn out..... Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 or @temmynikan Visit our blog at www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com or our facebook page : Home Builders Support Network If you would like to ask a question, need guidance or would like to share an experience, email me @ homebuilderssn@gmail.com ® Home Builders International (Preserve, Prepare & Build)