WHEN THE WEEDS ARE SOWN (Wake Up)

Do you remember that gooffey feeling you had when you first fell in love? The way you felt when his call came in, the way you felt when he called your name, held your hands, smiled at you? How you could not wait for his call to come in, how many times you called him in a day ; how important he was to you, & the little things that made each day wonderful. At least that was the way most people felt when they fell in love. It was a period of activity & you were doing every thing possible to keep the fire burning. Have you ever wondered where all of those feelings went to after a few years of marriage? Well I have at some point in mine. Although I've read the parable of the "Weeds among Wheat" (Matthew  13: 24-30)  but the Holy Spirit gave fresh insight. For starters, a lot of marriages are like Wheat with Weeds growing in them.  These Weeds or the little foxes like we might call them are those things that compete with or deplete the nutrient value meant for the Wheat itself. The Weeds in a marriage could be lack of mutual respect, infidelity, consistent arguement & fighting, lack of communication & so on. Bottom line, Weeds are those things with the capacity to end a marriage if not nipped in the bud early enough. Truth is that too many women worry about the presence of the Weeds ignoring how the Weeds got there in the first place .... Until you know & stop how the Weeds grow in, things would only grow from bad to worse. Matthew 13:25 says " But while everyone was asleep, an enemy came & scattered weed seeds in the field "(CEV). It's very obvious here that the Weeds did not just jump on the Farm, it was sown while everyone slept. To sleep is to let your guards down, to be unaware of your environment, to ignore, to lay back, possesing a non - chalant attitude. Thīs unfortunately is the situation in many marriages today. Too many women are asleep ; they have let their guards down & allowed the enemy sow Weeds in their Wheat. If you're finding it difficult to grasp the meaning of what I'm writing about, let me make it as relatable as possible. √ the field in this context represents your marriage √ the farmers are you & your spouse √ the Wheat / good seeds refers to every possible fruit your marriage bears ranging from trust, love, honour, faithfulness, communication, to mutual respect & so on. Those are the things you ought to nuture & groom in your marriage. They are the fruits the enemy seeks to destroy & they can only get the chance the moment you fall asleep. I started this article by talking about those things we used to do before we said "I do". Those were the actions that got & secured our partners attention ; those were the things that nutured our relationships ; those were the indications that we were awake. Every time you stop doing the things that makes your spouse feel important, you start sleeping. Marriage is not a licence to ignore your partner, neither is it a time to take each other for granted,  its a call to nuture so the relationship can be preserved & have a future. Don't ever make the mistake of thinking once you're married,  it's okay to let go "afterall your partner is not going anywhere ". It doesn't have to be infidelity, the bad seeds are sown when you stop talking, loving & caring; they become Weeds of resentment here, anger, unforgiveness and so on. As a farmer, you must keep a close eye on what's yours and take great care of it because Weeds only grow in places that have been ignored or abandoned for a long period of time. Open your eyes; love your husband & make sure he knows you love him (show him) # Call him sweet names # Engage the flattery of speech, make him feel important (because he is) # Massage his ego ladies, *wink # Call him during the day @ work,  let him know he's on your mind # Prepare his favorite meal # Make him feel like the KING he is..... The list is endless..... There are  two (2) sides to this write -up, the first of which I've already analyzed; the part where you don't sleep so the Weeds don't grow. For some of you that have farms (marriages) full of Weeds already ; don't panic because that's the second part I'll be talking about next week. Be rest assured that in Matthew 13:24-30, even after the farmer realized Weeds had been planted, it was not the end of his Farm ...... That situation is not hopeless, there's a way out .... In the meantime, stay awake!!! To receive updates from our blog, visit the blog & subscribe to follow. Follow on twitter @homebuilders012 Or send your questions, enquiry & comments to homebuilderssn@gmail.com Remember to get your copy of my e-book "A WISE WOMAN BUILDS " (N1,000) ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL (Prepare, Preserve & Build)