THE FOUR SEASONS OF MARRIAGE

THE FOUR SEASONS OF MARRIAGE Just as there are 4 seasons in the year, we have same in marriages. Whether it's SPRING, SUMMER, WINTER OR FALL, you (husbands & wives) determine what season your relationship is in per time. The seasons you experience in your marriage is no respecter of how young or old your marriage is. The seasons in your marriage is determined by how you respond to and process Change. Your response to change consists of " emotions, attitude & actions ". emotions +attitude +actions = season of marriage. The common mistake we make is that we allow our emotions lead to action. You must never act on your emotions ; rather emotions must lead to reasoning; and reasoning guided by truth. When confronted with situations; the cardinal rule to remember is not to act based on the way you feel at that point in time. For starters let's start with the season called WINTER. WINTER: Simply means a period of difficulty. It's important to note that winter can occur at any stage in marriage. *it's characterized by coldness, harshness, & bitterness. c*Winter in marriage shuts down the communication line between couples. *every communication ends up in unresolved conflict *couples live like flatmate * unwilling to resolve their differences. Winter is not created by the difficulty couples experience, but in how couples react to those difficulties. You begin to move your marriage towards Winter when couples begin to say "my way or not @ all ". Like I stated earlier, the seasons in marriage are created by our reaction to emotions. The emotions in Winter are often ; dissapointment, anger, accompanied by lonliness,& a sense of rejection. When you begin to feel this way, its a sign that Winter is approaching. Your attitude or the way you interprete these emotions determine if winter will come or not. Of course, like the natural season of Winter , the most natural reaction is to withdrawal from the chills of the season to keep warm. While this may work for the natural season, which would Change on it's own; the same cannot be said about marriage. The Change of season in your marriage requires conscious effort. To move your marriage out of Winter, you must do away with all the harsh words,violence, silence, coldness & emotional & physical distance...... Eyitemi The Home Builder @ Home Builders our goal is to prepare, preserve & build homes. Helping you be the best you're created to be in your relationship. Email : homebuilderssn@gmail.com Twitter: @temmynikan Website: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com Listen to our broadcast : www.soundcloud.com/eyitemi-adebowale FB Group : Home Builders Resource Centre. Telephone : 08167303190