PREPARED FOR MARRIAGE 2

ARE YOU PREPARED ........Continued 2) PHYSICAL PREPARATION : When I talk about physical preparation for marriage, I'm certainly not referring to a wedding gown , guest list, food & wine tasters and all sort. That's more like a preparation for a wedding ; it's a wedding planners job & in case you're wondering, there's a difference between the two (wedding & marriage) A wedding refers to the ceremony itself ; the activity where the joining of the man& woman is witnessed. A marriage on the other hand looks at the process ; what the man & woman make out of the union over a period of time. Marriage is a the journey & a wedding only marks the beginning. Your level of emotional maturity ultimatly reflects in your physical readiness. Physical readiness here does not include your height, weight, burst size & all the parameters if adolesence. Not that they are not important, they vary from one individual to the other with regards to preferences. physical preparation or readiness for the purpose of this article looks at issues such as how domesticated you are, carriage, outlook / appearances, cooking & so on... These are a number of the physical activities that married women engage in; the question you should be asking yourself now is " if I say I'm ready for marriage, can I successfully carry out those tasks? " Cooking for example, it would be absolutely ridiculous for a lady who claims she is ready for marriage to be unable to boil noodles successfully. What about cleaning, washing scrubbing & all the other activities,? "its easy to say in the age that you could easily get helps but know that they can only do so much. What happens if the maid suddenly stops the job do you begin to panick? You have nothing to loose if you decide to know the how behind these activities . There are demands that marriage will place on you physically & if you're not ready, you might crash under the weight. Sighting my example of the "fattening room " of the Efik people, (Visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com if you missed the first part of this article) the wives to be are taught on how to meet the physical demands of marriage ; from cooking , to sex .... like a friend of mine put on a blog (Reginald Bassey), the "fattening room " should be called a house of refinement. The key word here is "delibrate preparation " Watch what your mother is doing ; don't sit and Watch TV while your mum or the help makes dinner; so you don't end up putting sugar inside stew. Do the laundry from time to time, so you dont end up washing your husbands stockings with his white shirt,...these are the little things that puts you in charge of your home, commands the respect of your husband & children & puts you in a position to teach your own children. Nobody will wake up one morning & show you everything neither does every culture have the "fattening room ". You are solely responsible for the way you turn out..... Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 or @temmynikan Visit our blog at www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com or our facebook page : Home Builders Support Network If you would like to ask a question, need guidance or would like to share an experience, email me @ homebuilderssn@gmail.com ® Home Builders International (Preserve, Prepare & Build)