The journey of a thousand miles, they say starts with a step, but this step is not readily taken when you don't know which direction you are headed
Your marriage with your spouse is a journey you have both chosen to embark on ;and like every other journey, you're bound to arrive @ a cross road .It's called a cross road because you're faced with so many options and you need to decide upon which path to tread.
A cross road is very normal but what wears most people out is the uncertainty associated with the path you decide to take. In marriage to be specific, you enter into a cross road when challenges arise and you're trying to figure out a solution.
It's even more overwhelming when you are burdened with the responsibility of making these decisions alone- which is what happens in so many unions
Marriage is a walk of togetherness and when you arrive at these cross roads, you need to be able to decide together as a single unit on how to proceed. Because marriageis not one person's responsibility, attempting to carry it all by yourself will wear you out quickly.
By now I know you're asking "what if your partner is not as willing"? I'll say that is another cross- road, and you'll need to turn to someone bigger for partnership- God. Whether you're together or alone, once you encounter situations beyond your capabilities, turn to the cross.
Based on my conversation with a lot of women, it feels as though most of them are in the marriage walk alone. ( @ least that's how they feel) especially when the cross road is their spouse. Whether you feel as if you're the only one interested in making you marriage work, or you feel like your husband no longer loves you as he used to, let me assure youthat you're never alone. Don't blindly select a course of action without being certainbecause the outcome might be disastrous.. "How can you be certain" you might ask
Incase you've forgotten, let me remind you that God is the curator of marriage and if you're ever unsure on which path to take on your cross-road, turn to him because He alone has the MAP.
You don't have the MAP, Hollywood does not have the MAP your family and friends do not have the MAP, but God does. There's nothing happening to you or in you marriage that has not happened to another; yet they came out as winners. So encourage yourself wives, turn to God in prayers and trust him to lead you in the best path- as a matter of fact, he is more that willing to walk down the path with you if you would allow him.
During my quiet time this morning, I was reminded of Roman 12:2 "do not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind......"don't try to do things using your own strength or wisdom, because in most cases it only worsens the situation. There's a God way to doing things and that way is God's MAP/BLUE-PRINT for our marriage.
It might sound akage but In God's MAP( word) he has provided directions on how to deal with certain cross roads. If the challenge is with your husband, permit me to say from experience that force, nagging or crying will not necessarily change the situation.
The book of 1Peter 3:1-2 explains that if there's a change you want to see in your husband or marriage, then that change has to start with you. Only then can you model that change for your husband to observe and be influenced.
Pay back does not do any good in marriage, it only further destroys it. If there's something you want to see, be that change, and be patient for the holyspirit to work.
There's a solution to every problem. Cross Roads are meant to be conquered but you need the right disposition and God MAP. Don't take any other MAP provided by the movies, your cosmopolitan magazine, or the social network because not only will you be going in the wrong direction, you might get lost without the option of a do over.
Please note that in the case of an abuse, it's best to get to safety first while working on a resolution.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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