Reading through an article recently, my eye caught the news of a 12yr old girl and 13 years old boy who just had a baby.
Immediately, a barage of questions entered into my mind;
Did they really have sex @ that age?
Have they already attained the age of puberty?
How much did they know about parenting. ( they are barely children themselves)
Her dad who was in prison said he was proud of her;
Her mum was celebrating being the world's youngest grandmother,
And finally the most disturbing statement I read was that the next generation might grow up having partners and having kids with them, without getting married
It's obvious that in this generation we have a lot of things confused and if people don't start talking, we will end up in so much chaos and later begin to wonder how we got there.
Young people are confused about who they are, confused about their sexuality, confused about the dynamics of a relationship, confused about marriage and the world @ large.
With all these confusion, and the main stream media not helping, we are gradually going down a path our society might find it difficult to recover from.
Lust, likeness and love have all be muddled up & relationships wrongly defined leaving people broken and twisted.
A wise man once said that if "purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable"
Apparently a lot of people don't know the purpose of relationships/ marriage, so they end up abusing it.
Or tell me, if they did understand, how does a 12yr old girl end up becoming a mother?
For some people, relationship is an opportunity to bury their loneliness, build their world around another, or derive their identity form such a relationship.
This identity crises is what has twisted the way people think.
Relationship is not a call to flex or show your sexual prowess.
Relationships ought to be mutually beneficial; not parasitic, nor exploitative.
Marriage asides the procreation mandate, is for companionship & partnership.
Don't get involved in this institution if you don't understand the dynamics.
A lot of the challenges in society today is wrought by dysfunctional individuals, who are products of a fracture home, marriages & relationships.
You are who you are, and it's not dependent on your relationships
Understand that there's a difference between like, love and lust.
When someone uses you to only meet and satisfy their desires, it's not love, it's lust.
Liking someone is not automatically equal to loving the person.
Love requires commitment,
Love demands sacrifice,
Love seeks the best interest of the other party,
And remember that sex does not equate love
In brevity, Lust, Like, & Love all have emotions, and if you ever want to know if love is somewhere in the midst of hemotion you are feeling for someone, ask your self the following;
1. Are you willing to be committed to this person
2. Are you willing to make sacrifies for this person
3. Do you constantly seek the best interest for this person
4. Would you still feel the same way if Sex wasn't in the equation
5. Would it matter if this person doesn't feel the same way about you?
Though tough, these questions are likely to help you clear the air as to what you're feeling for someone @ any point in time.
This list is not exhaustive, and love is not some subject you can examine in a lab, but to a large extent, after being married for almost a decade, these sieve tests can come in handy.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
BBM:2B2D2806
Twitter:@homebuilders012
Blog:www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
Email: homebuilderssn@gmail.com
Instagram: eyitemithehomebuilder
Google +: Eyitemi Adebowale
Immediately, a barage of questions entered into my mind;
Did they really have sex @ that age?
Have they already attained the age of puberty?
How much did they know about parenting. ( they are barely children themselves)
Her dad who was in prison said he was proud of her;
Her mum was celebrating being the world's youngest grandmother,
And finally the most disturbing statement I read was that the next generation might grow up having partners and having kids with them, without getting married
It's obvious that in this generation we have a lot of things confused and if people don't start talking, we will end up in so much chaos and later begin to wonder how we got there.
Young people are confused about who they are, confused about their sexuality, confused about the dynamics of a relationship, confused about marriage and the world @ large.
With all these confusion, and the main stream media not helping, we are gradually going down a path our society might find it difficult to recover from.
Lust, likeness and love have all be muddled up & relationships wrongly defined leaving people broken and twisted.
A wise man once said that if "purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable"
Apparently a lot of people don't know the purpose of relationships/ marriage, so they end up abusing it.
Or tell me, if they did understand, how does a 12yr old girl end up becoming a mother?
For some people, relationship is an opportunity to bury their loneliness, build their world around another, or derive their identity form such a relationship.
This identity crises is what has twisted the way people think.
Relationship is not a call to flex or show your sexual prowess.
Relationships ought to be mutually beneficial; not parasitic, nor exploitative.
Marriage asides the procreation mandate, is for companionship & partnership.
Don't get involved in this institution if you don't understand the dynamics.
A lot of the challenges in society today is wrought by dysfunctional individuals, who are products of a fracture home, marriages & relationships.
You are who you are, and it's not dependent on your relationships
Understand that there's a difference between like, love and lust.
When someone uses you to only meet and satisfy their desires, it's not love, it's lust.
Liking someone is not automatically equal to loving the person.
Love requires commitment,
Love demands sacrifice,
Love seeks the best interest of the other party,
And remember that sex does not equate love
In brevity, Lust, Like, & Love all have emotions, and if you ever want to know if love is somewhere in the midst of hemotion you are feeling for someone, ask your self the following;
1. Are you willing to be committed to this person
2. Are you willing to make sacrifies for this person
3. Do you constantly seek the best interest for this person
4. Would you still feel the same way if Sex wasn't in the equation
5. Would it matter if this person doesn't feel the same way about you?
Though tough, these questions are likely to help you clear the air as to what you're feeling for someone @ any point in time.
This list is not exhaustive, and love is not some subject you can examine in a lab, but to a large extent, after being married for almost a decade, these sieve tests can come in handy.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
BBM:2B2D2806
Twitter:@homebuilders012
Blog:www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
Email: homebuilderssn@gmail.com
Instagram: eyitemithehomebuilder
Google +: Eyitemi Adebowale
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