One of the worst things a woman can have asides nagging, is a critical spirit. A woman who sees no good in her husband or continues to see all the wrongs he does, can be said to have a critical spirit.
One of the major needs for a man is RESPECT & it's very difficult to respect a man you don't approve of. It's almost impossible to respect a man who according to your mental scorecard doesn't measure up.
To Affirm your husband means to constantly praise him, encourage him, make him feel good and most importantly make sure He knows that all his efforts can be seen, felt and appreciated.
I have discovered that husbands are not perfect neither are we as wives, but each times we affirm them they strive to do better.
A large portion of affairs are carried out by men whose wives are extremely critical of them.
If all you do is make your husband know where he misses it, falls short or fails, he will gradually begin to retreat and seeks solace in places where he is affirmed or feels good.
That place might be work and unfortunately sometimes the arms of another woman.
I once read about a wives who constantly unleashed her venom of criticism at her husband. Every opportunity she got.
In her defense she felt that if she did that, he will be inspired to be a better man! But unfortunately the opposite happened. Day by day his confidence and ability as a husband continued to plummet until he finally checked out of the relationship emotionally.
Pastor Rick Warren once said that it takes no special intelligence to criticize; as a matter a fact even a fool can criticize; but it takes a lot to identify the good in people and acknowledge it.
It's amazing how much positivity is released into your marriage every time you affirm the man in your life and how much toxins you release into your marriage when you become critical of him.
Nobody wants to be reminded of their failures or limitations, (not even the critical wife herself) so you can hardly blame a man who avoids such an environment.
People don't crumble in day, neither does marriages. It's usually a slow process which in most cases the woman is oblivious to because she has her focus else where.
Men whose wives are very critical have a yearning and longing within them. They are lacking a basic need of acceptance and will swing towards where they get it from whether it's from work or a friendly colleague.
Now I'm not trying to excuse a man's infidelity, men are absolutely responsible for those choices, but you will be doing your marriage a whole lot of good if you deliberately, consciously and consistently affirm the man in your life.Affirmation is to a man what Validation is to woman.
Do you know how it feels when your feelings are not validated as a woman?That's exactly how it feels when you constantly criticize and berate your man.
There's an adage in my place that says " whatever you have referred to as the head, should never be put on the ground" (translated)
Treat your husband with the respect and honour he deserves, so that people can accord the same to him.
For wives with kids, remember that you're the primary model of what a wife, mother and of a marriage should be like to them; model wisely.
Look out for those times when he does great things, encourage him to be the best he can be.
Close your eyes to those times when he misses the goal or fall short.
Affirmation can be learned. The more you praise him for his achievements, the harder he'll strive to be better.Remember this;
---->When you use your words to build up and encourage your husband, you're giving him a strong line of defense against extramarital affairs.
---->When you are actively, aggressively, powerfully and positively affirming him and building him up @ home he becomes less vulnerable to others appreciation"
---->Your affirmation of your husband creates a zone of protection around him- because when you affirm him, you meets some of his most basic male needs"
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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Twitter:@homebuilders012
Blog :www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
Email:homebuilderssn@gmail.com
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Google +: Eyitemi Adebowale
One of the major needs for a man is RESPECT & it's very difficult to respect a man you don't approve of. It's almost impossible to respect a man who according to your mental scorecard doesn't measure up.
To Affirm your husband means to constantly praise him, encourage him, make him feel good and most importantly make sure He knows that all his efforts can be seen, felt and appreciated.
I have discovered that husbands are not perfect neither are we as wives, but each times we affirm them they strive to do better.
A large portion of affairs are carried out by men whose wives are extremely critical of them.
If all you do is make your husband know where he misses it, falls short or fails, he will gradually begin to retreat and seeks solace in places where he is affirmed or feels good.
That place might be work and unfortunately sometimes the arms of another woman.
I once read about a wives who constantly unleashed her venom of criticism at her husband. Every opportunity she got.
In her defense she felt that if she did that, he will be inspired to be a better man! But unfortunately the opposite happened. Day by day his confidence and ability as a husband continued to plummet until he finally checked out of the relationship emotionally.
Pastor Rick Warren once said that it takes no special intelligence to criticize; as a matter a fact even a fool can criticize; but it takes a lot to identify the good in people and acknowledge it.
It's amazing how much positivity is released into your marriage every time you affirm the man in your life and how much toxins you release into your marriage when you become critical of him.
Nobody wants to be reminded of their failures or limitations, (not even the critical wife herself) so you can hardly blame a man who avoids such an environment.
People don't crumble in day, neither does marriages. It's usually a slow process which in most cases the woman is oblivious to because she has her focus else where.
Men whose wives are very critical have a yearning and longing within them. They are lacking a basic need of acceptance and will swing towards where they get it from whether it's from work or a friendly colleague.
Now I'm not trying to excuse a man's infidelity, men are absolutely responsible for those choices, but you will be doing your marriage a whole lot of good if you deliberately, consciously and consistently affirm the man in your life.Affirmation is to a man what Validation is to woman.
Do you know how it feels when your feelings are not validated as a woman?That's exactly how it feels when you constantly criticize and berate your man.
There's an adage in my place that says " whatever you have referred to as the head, should never be put on the ground" (translated)
Treat your husband with the respect and honour he deserves, so that people can accord the same to him.
For wives with kids, remember that you're the primary model of what a wife, mother and of a marriage should be like to them; model wisely.
Look out for those times when he does great things, encourage him to be the best he can be.
Close your eyes to those times when he misses the goal or fall short.
Affirmation can be learned. The more you praise him for his achievements, the harder he'll strive to be better.Remember this;
---->When you use your words to build up and encourage your husband, you're giving him a strong line of defense against extramarital affairs.
---->When you are actively, aggressively, powerfully and positively affirming him and building him up @ home he becomes less vulnerable to others appreciation"
---->Your affirmation of your husband creates a zone of protection around him- because when you affirm him, you meets some of his most basic male needs"
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
BBM:2B2D2806
Twitter:@homebuilders012
Blog :www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
Email:homebuilderssn@gmail.com
Instagram: eyitemithehomebuilder
Google +: Eyitemi Adebowale
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