LEAVE THE PAST BEHIND

If there's anything true about life, it's the fact that nobody can move forward while looking backwards.

Regardless of whatever our domain or specialty in life, moving forward brings about satisfaction to the human race.

Contrary to what you might have seen, heard or experience, marriage is a beautiful thing. It is even more beautiful if it enjoys an upwardly mobile motion.

In so many marriages, individuals come together with so much baggage and weight that it pulls down on their relationships with their spouses. Too often we hold on to the wrong things and we end up holding back the opportunity to enjoy a blissful relationship.

One of the major principles of marriage as stated in the book of Creation (Genesis 2:24) is the" Leave and Cleave "principle.

Many marriages are going downhill because one or both couples have failed to "Leave" and and wandering why they can't " Cleave".

There's so much to leave behind, if you want your marriage to enjoy that much desired upward motion.

1. YOUR PAST: There no doubt that everyone including myself has a past that we are not too proud of, but failure to let go can be catastrophic. Your past existed for a reason, it tells a story of where you are coming from, but it cannot define who you are unless you let it. Recognize where you are now especially as it relates to your marriages, and live in the now.

Whether it was an event, something that happened to you or someone you know, in your past, as long as it stands in the way of letting your marriage be all that it can be, leave it all behind

I once heard the story of a newly married lady who could not let go of her single days, habit and friends. She barely cooked @ home for her new husband, she was more interested in visiting the movies, buying take outs and partying.

While there's nothing wrong in wanting to relax and entertain yourself once in a while, this young lady failed to understand, and accept her new role and life as a wife.

Don't get stuck in your past, because you'll be dragging your partner and marriage @ large back.

2. YOUR FRIENDS & FAMILY:
Don't get me wrong on this. I'm not asking that you alienate yourself from your loved ones, I'm asking that you know where to draw the line. Your parents marriage and that of your friends are different from yours- it's important you know this.

Your number one loyalty should be to your spouse and you should flee from anyone who seeks to contest that . Now that your married, live your married live in that consciousness

3. PAST ISSUES: One of the things I used to do very early in my marriage was to constantly refer to my husband's past failures. While that made be win the battle, little did I know that I was loosing the war on my marriage. Your spouse will most certainly hurt you, and not only must you be quick to forgive, you must forget it, let it go, and try not to make further references to it. No matter how tempting it may seem.

Living in the past hinders growth, brings about regrets, stagnation and lots of heart ache. Don't dwell on it, learn from it and move on

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