RE-IGNITING YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

This month we began by talking about how you can make your spouse or partner your best friend to re-ignite the flame in your relationship.I have stated that the foremost requirement in becoming your spouses best friend is to open up your heart and be willing to be vulnerable. Every good thing comes with its own price tag, and if you eventually successful @ making your spouse/partner your best friend, it would have been worth all the risk.Hence, in its simplest form, below are ways to make your spouse your best friend;

A: COMMUNICATION

*stay in touch

*call him to give regular daily update

*share the highlights of your day with him

*send romantic text messages

*share funny jokes with him and laugh @ all his jokes ( even when they are not funny

B. COMMON GROUNDS:

*go on a stroll/ short walks with him

*watch a movie together

*attend functions together

*eat together

*play games with each other

The list is endless and you need to be creative. After all said and done, I hope you'll realize that because he is your husband, does not automatically mean he will be your best friend. It takes work, conscious and consistent work from you to make that happen. Do note that the above suggestions are not ends in themselves, each relationship/ marriage is unique and modifications should be made as necessary.

The bottom line is this, the first step to re-igniting the flame in your relationship is to make your partner your best friend. Once you can secure this friendship, you 'll have companionship, companionship will stimulate intimacy which ultimately create that spark you desire.

Eyitemi The Home Builder

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So many singles spend their time pinning for their one true love and the moment they are married, its becomes a lot more than they bargained for.  Succeeding @ marriage requires a lot of effort, so while you're in still "in waiting"Focus on preparing the be the right kind of woman

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THE NUMBER 2 INGREDIENT IN RE-IGNITING YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE-COMMUNICATION

I established last week that the foremost ingredient in re-igniting the flame in your relationship is to have " an open, ready and willing heart"
The 2nd and equally important ingredient is "communication"
Remember how it was when you were dating that special person? There was this urge to tell that person everything, no matter how little or irrelevant it may have seemed.
Have you ever noticed the relationship between best friends or" BFF's" as its is often called this days. They are always talking, chatting and whispering one thing or the other; often time to the annoyance of those outside the circle.
You would bring back the friend in your partner the moment you begin to cultivate the act of telling them things. Whether its a compliments, gist,or observation the moment you begin to communicate with your partner, it tells him/ her that they are important to you and sooner or later they would begin to do same (especially if they have not previously been doing so)
Bear in mind that communication is not a one way "thingy".  As a matter a fact being " 2 way" action is what makes it communication. One person talks and the other listens. I don't think you and I would appreciate a friend who only wants to talk about himself/herself without wanting to listen to us.
Communication is also not only verbal in nature. Its can be written, it could be implied via gestures, attitudes also known as body language.
So in this new week, make a commitment to talk to your partner about everything and watch the friend in that partner of yours re-surface
If you are not yet married, I bet you understand exactly what I am talking about. Even after marriage, ensure you keep the communication channels open. Don't stop talking, don't stop chatting, pinging, texting and what ever it is that you do because being able to have a friend who is your life partner is bliss.
I have a colleague at work who must have been married for at least 7years. The first thing I noticed about her is how much her husband can call her in a day; even while at work. If something profound happened to either of them, they would pick up the phone and share it ASAP; and if nothing at all, her husband would still call to say hello. This alone has made them " great friends" making them better partners to each other.
Like I said, in this new week, remember to call your partner, send him little text messages, share the events in your life as they happen because not only with it reveal a long lost friend in your spouse, it will increase the intensity of that flame burning so brightly in your marriage/ relationship.
Once your the communication lines in your marriage is open, it makes your marriage/ relationship impenetrable.
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THE NUMBER 1 INGREDIENT IN RE-IGNITING YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

Any fire no matter how great will eventually die out except, it is fueled fanned to keep the flames alive; the same applies to your marriage/ relationship. If things are great now,don't ever assume it will continue that way "on its own" , you are responsible for keeping the fire burning.
Every marriage/ relationship that is to be enjoyed requires conscious effort on the part of you and your partner; because it is very easy to go from being lovers, to house mates amidst the demands of work,the children, career and so on.
If you have lost the vibe in your marriage/relationship, don't panic, there's still hope. All you need to do is ignite a little spark, fuel it and "voila" you have a great fire burning.
While all of these might seem like some intangible chit chat; hold on the practical ways to ignite that fire is on the way.
The most important requirement in re-igniting the flame in your relationship. Just as there's no bonfire without wood, you cannot renew your friendship with your partner /spouse without a "willing heart"
I said willing because there's no friendship without vulnerability. You will need to open up your heart, tear down the walls you have built,be receptive and positive.
Like I mentioned in my previous post, to re-ignite the flame, you must work on your friendship first.
As in the bible where God called Abraham " his friend" Abraham was able to qualify as God's friend because he opened up himself/heart to God,tore down his walls, was receptive and most importantly he was positive( faith)
As we proceed in the course of the month, we will see more and more ways to re-ignite this flame.
Finally let me say that in order to succeed at this task, you must first of all become a child "in nature". Children are easy going, forgive easily, ready and open to try & try again, they have no wall and most importantly they are mostly positive.
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FANNING THE FLAME IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Developing friendship with your spouse is one of the many essential ingredients needed to make your relationship/marriage a success. This month, we will be focusing on " FANNING THE FLAME OF FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE". It okay if you can make your partner your friend, but its even better if you marry a friend.
Before we proceed,let's get a proper understanding of who a friend is, or who a friend is supposed to be.
According to "Urban Dictionary" defination, (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=friendship)
------>Friendship is when you love someone with every ounce of your being and genuinely want them to be happy even if it means sacrificing something your self to make them happy.
------>A true friend is someone you can talk to about your feelings, someone you can tell things you could never tell your family or even your partner.
------>They are someone who you don't have to talk to but someone you want to talk to; someone you will go out of your way to be with.
------>Friendship is when you love someone so much you want to hold them and never let go, someone you want to rest your head on and cry, and you would let them cry on you too. Its someone you can talk to about things you disagree on and end up being closer for that disagreement.
------>Its when you think about someone and how close you are to them and how much you love them and you smile and are happy all over.
------>Friendship is when your love for someone exceeds your need for them. (the Dali Lama said that)!"
That being said I bet a number of people can relate with the above definitions. For those who have been married for a while, you probably felt this way when you were dating your spouse; and for those who are still on the dating scene you're most likely experiencing this feeling.
I can totally relate with this feeling because I have also gone down that road.
As lovely as this feeling/emotion is a lot of us tend to loose down the lane and suddenly the once blissful, rainbowed energetic, & butterfly in the belly relationship becomes a monotonous monochromed themed chore that we begin to dread.
This is exactly how it feels when the fire dies out. I believe strongly that this fire is "FRIENDSHIP" I say friendship because it what is built upon. A strong friendship is what even love is built upon.
As we start the journey of 2014, the book of Isaiah 43:19 says " Behold I will do a new thing: I will make roads in the deserts and rivers in the dry land" and that is exactly what God says he will do in your marriages this month.
By the power of God's word, every dry land in your marriage will experience a new river.
As we go along this month, we will explore the various ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship by renewing your  friendship with each other.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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