I established last week that the foremost ingredient in re-igniting the
flame in your relationship is to have " an open, ready and willing
heart"The 2nd and equally important ingredient is "communication"
Remember how it was when you were dating that special person? There was this urge to tell that person everything, no matter how little or irrelevant it may have seemed.
Have you ever noticed the relationship between best friends or" BFF's" as its is often called this days. They are always talking, chatting and whispering one thing or the other; often time to the annoyance of those outside the circle.
You would bring back the friend in your partner the moment you begin to cultivate the act of telling them things. Whether its a compliments, gist,or observation the moment you begin to communicate with your partner, it tells him/ her that they are important to you and sooner or later they would begin to do same (especially if they have not previously been doing so)
Bear in mind that communication is not a one way "thingy". As a matter a fact being " 2 way" action is what makes it communication. One person talks and the other listens. I don't think you and I would appreciate a friend who only wants to talk about himself/herself without wanting to listen to us.
Communication is also not only verbal in nature. Its can be written, it could be implied via gestures, attitudes also known as body language.
So in this new week, make a commitment to talk to your partner about everything and watch the friend in that partner of yours re-surface
If you are not yet married, I bet you understand exactly what I am talking about. Even after marriage, ensure you keep the communication channels open. Don't stop talking, don't stop chatting, pinging, texting and what ever it is that you do because being able to have a friend who is your life partner is bliss.
I have a colleague at work who must have been married for at least 7years. The first thing I noticed about her is how much her husband can call her in a day; even while at work. If something profound happened to either of them, they would pick up the phone and share it ASAP; and if nothing at all, her husband would still call to say hello. This alone has made them " great friends" making them better partners to each other.
Like I said, in this new week, remember to call your partner, send him little text messages, share the events in your life as they happen because not only with it reveal a long lost friend in your spouse, it will increase the intensity of that flame burning so brightly in your marriage/ relationship.
Once your the communication lines in your marriage is open, it makes your marriage/ relationship impenetrable.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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