LEAVING THE PAST BEHIND. Home Builders Daily Broadcast

Welcome to our daily broadcast. Hope this blesses you and refreshes your relationship.
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DEAR DIARY (Digging my foundation)

"Actions, looks, words and steps form the alphabet by which you may spell character. "
Johann Kasper Lavater

Dear Diary,
I've been thinking for a while now about the person I see in the mirror.
I've been thinking for a while now, if that person is the best that can be right now. Looking around society, it seems as though every one and everything I have ever believed in has been nothing but a lie. A big one @ that. Of all the many things I see around me, the successes, achievement and great feats of men I have discovered something amiss. I have discovered that even though their tree seems strong and with seemingly ever green leaves, they lack roots, depths, and will come down at the slightest appearance of adversity.
I've seen that marriage is not any different. Its more than the anticipation of the big day, beyond the sparkly white gown of the bride and the well fitted tuxedo of the groom; beyond the display of skill and creativity on the wedding cake, and more than the crowd of witness who are bound to disperse at the end of the day.
 I've seen that all those things are never enough, neither do they guarantee that the house will stand.
Although I am not yet old, grey and bent over a walking stick, it doesn't take a  rocket scientist to figure out that there's something wrong with marriages in our society today.
I remember correctly what was told to me by my mother and my grandmother. Not by the words of their mouth, but by the way I saw them live their lives.
I saw their lives reflect the strength of their character.
I saw the ability of character to build a home of brick; thus making it almost impossible for the big bad wolf to bring it down with its huffing and puffing.
I remember the word of Isaac Newton " if I have ever succeeded at all, it's by standing on the shoulder of giants who have gone ahead of me"
Although these women are not perfect, neither are their husbands, but I have decided to allow their lives be mirrored in mine.
I have learnt that the deeper my roots, my character, the greater the chances of the survival of my future marriage.
Of course I want a godly husband, but I have come to realize that the success of the race of 2, is dependent on the strength of the individuals involved. Like a relay team, the team is only as strong and the individual on the team, and each runner is responsible for the cumulative success of the team.
While I wait to be found, I have resolved to build my character. I will learn to persevere, be prayerful, be productive, make selfless decisions, be submissive, and true to myself.
As I pen down my thoughts, I will remember that my " Actions, looks, words and steps form the alphabet by which you may spell character". Just as Johann Kasper Lavater has wisely said.
Just as everyman is the architect of his own fortune, I will say that everyman is the architect of his/ her own character.
Character is an essentiality, you and I cannot do without to make that marriage last a lifetime.
Until next time dear diary,
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@ Singles, the success of your marriage depends strongly on the strength of your character. If you dig deep enough now while you're single, seeing every challenge as an opportunity for growth and to get it right, you will reap the benefits .
Don't be deceived by the easy life, because even as beautiful as roses are, beneath the bed are thorns.
Don't be tempted to take the easy way out, identify the skills you need to be a good homemaker, wife and mother and learn them.
Your future is counting on it.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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HOME BUILDING 102

@ Singles, don't get it twisted, the dating period is a time to KYP(Know your partner), identify if you can fit into his vision, goals and plans (for ladies& that's if he has one), identify if she can indeed function as a help meet( for men), a time to use your head . Its not a time to indulge your hyperactive and over zealous sex drives taking advantage of each other, (which of course be clouds your sense of reasoning) clinging to you partner as though he or she were some sort of life support machine and making his or life miserable in the name of love.
Get thinking.......
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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Twitter: @homebuilders012
Blog: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
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HOME BUILDING 101

Don't use your past relationship or someone else's relationship as a yard stick for yours. Like salvation each "relationship's race " is a personalised and unique one.
Do a SWOT analysis of your own relationship and run with it.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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Twitter: @homebuilders012
Blog: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com

THE FAVOURED WIFE

The Macmillan dictionary defines favour as " a behaviour that helps someone and gives them an advantage in an unfair way"
To find favour means to be approved, be held in high esteem, to show exceptional kindness beyond what is expected even it means breaking rules or protocol.
While doing my research, I discovered that as much as every wife desires to find favour before or enjoy her husbands favour, it would be an impossible task except a certain condition is fulfilled.
Proverbs 18:22 says " He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the lord" According to John Gill's Exposition of the Bible while commenting on the above scripture, he stated that the finding of a good wife is an evidence or a receipt of Gods favour. In order words a good wife can be said to be Gods favour.
Now, if we as wives ought to be Gods favour to our husbands, (kindly follow me through here to get my point) it implies that we ourselves(wives) ought to have found favour first before God. The favour we find before God ought to have been obtained while we were yet single. It when we become favored by God that He hand picks us as a Favoured Gift for our life partner.
As a wife, we ought to be the evidence of Gods favour to our husband.
That being said, I began to study the lives of women( Ruth & Esther) in the bible who enjoyed favour from their husbands, and two things became clear to me;
1. The favour they enjoyed from their husbands was not because of anything they did by their own physical effort, but as a carry over of the favour of God existing upon their lives even before they got married
2. They obtained this favour from God because he was pleased with them and their ways.

Every wife seeks to be  favored by her husband; because trust me it makes your marriage more enjoyable, it causes your husband to regard you and regard your opinions, be held in high esteem & shown exceptional kindness beyond what is expected.
This is what every wife desires but not what every wife gets. From my own personal experience and the lives of these two women in the bible, I discovered that;
 
. finding favour from one's husband is impossible without first finding it before God.
2. this favour from God is what releases his wisdom to us (wives) teaching us what to do, and how to find favour before our husbands.
Its really important that we get the process. Without favour from God, its impossible to find favour before our spouses.
Next week, we will look at the lives of these women of grace mentioned in the bible, and see what they did to find favour before God. After which we will begin to explore practical ways the wisdom of God can teach us to find favour before our spouses.
Until then, keep praying, keep building and make pleasing God your priority this week.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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Twitter: @homebuilders012
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DEAR DIARY: My unique selling point

"What I am is how I came out. No one's perfect and you just have to accept your flaws and learn to love yourself."

Kelly Brook

Dear Diary,
Today I saw him for the first time. It was beautiful, time seemed to come to a halt and the only sound I could hear for the fast beat of my own heart. I almost allowed my self to enjoy the moment. To relish in the thought that he might actually look in my direction and like what he sees; until my reality ruined it.
I quickly turned away, I remembered
My excitement was short lived and a strong wind seemed to blow over the little candle of expectation I had lit. It was, yes in that moment that I felt the little nudging of my inner companion.
"I was formed &  knitted in seclusion and THE ONE did not require the contribution of anybody. The FIRST &
GREATEST ARTIST looked at me as saw perfection and said "IT WAS GOOD"
Why then was I selling myself short?
Not only was I a work of art,I was designed to be someone's "helpmeet"
Could it be his, I attempted to rekindle my previous buzz. Why was I attempting to sentence my self before the verdict was passed.
By whose standard was I trying to measure myself initially. Oh how wrong I was as I remembered the words of- Vanessa Hudgens
"You have to be able to love yourself because that's when things fall into place."
Yes I'm not perfect, but I know I have a wonderful smile.
Yes I'm not perfect but I've been blessed with the gift of a voice
Yes I'm not perfect but when I look into the mirror I see one of a king of GOD'S creation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar lady who has been called into Gods marvelous light.
Now I might not be the one who catches, his fancy, but it doesn't make me unworthy.
He might not smile back at me, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.
And yes I know there is that person who will appreciate the ME in ME, because I have what nobody else in the world has. From my finger print to my DNA, and my personality, nothing can be duplicated.
Once again I disengaged from my kill joy mode, and turned in his direction. Confident of who I am, what I have and loving the new me, I looked at the future, expecting nothing but the very best.
Until next time dear diary.....
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oh my braces! My legs are too short and I have not shaved them in a few days. As I attempted to wipe the sweat forming on my brows I was reminded of the nasty Zit(pimple) on my forehead which seemed to be enjoying its new found home despite all the remedies I have used to put an end to it illegal accommodation.

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@ Singles there's nothing as good as loving yourself because it is the you, you love that people will fall in love with. Forget your flaws because truly there is no perfection anywhere. The only perfect one is GOD. Your inability to love yourself is your own self made confinement. It ruins yourself esteem and radiates negative energy around you. Stay away from people who throw pity parties over their flaws, so you don't get infected. Look within, remembering that you were fashioned by THE GREATEST ARTIST that ever was, who is right now and will ever be.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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Twitter: @homebuilders012
Blog: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
Email: homebuilderssn@gmail.com

HOW TO BUILD (THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN SERIES) PART 2

This is the 3rd part to our Proverbs 31 woman's blue print series; and if you have been following you will appreciate the progression we have made from.

- Practically identifying what it means to be a wise woman who builds (Proverbs 14:1),
- how to build our homes (by first "Building your relationship with your husband")
- and today we will be looking at " Building via Productivity &Value added Contribution"
I've come to realize that no matter how advanced we become as a globe whether its in technology, science or healthcare, the Proverbs 31 woman will always remain relevant to any woman who seeks the success of her home. Like Bishop David Oyedepo always says" The Bible is the oldest book ever written which still has relevance to today's living" (Para phrased)

--->Proverbs 31:13-14,16-19

"13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar .
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night. 19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.''
This could as well be my favourite part of this series mostly because not only can I relate with this but I have seen many women (foolish women) tear down their homes (knowingly or un-knowingly). It common to hear people say things like " its the man's responsibility to work while the woman spends his money" while there's nothing wrong with spending your husbands money( as I matter of fact, it feels good to spend my husbands money and I pray he makes more money than I and my kids can spend-smile) its not an excuse for laxity, non chanlancy and being a leech" for those who didn't know, " The Proverbs 31 woman was a financially independent woman"
Make yourself relevant by contributing to the family. She makes, she sells, she's not idle, neither is she financially dependent on her husband. I once watched a TV interview of Onyeka Onwenu where I got one of the best interviews I have heard in a long time. To all women " never loose your financial independence"
The Proverbs 31 woman was woman who understood that too build her home " successfully" she needed to be productive and make meaningful contributions to her home.
In today's world, there are various ways to get productive. You either have a full time job, or skill or you involved in trade. Either way the number way to build your home is to ensure
1. You are productively engaged. You are either exchanging your service or skill in exchange for money. You're trading. Either way look for work. Too many foolish women have brought down their homes because of their idleness. You see them wake up early in the money and all they are interested in is neighborhood gossip rather than focusing on meeting the needs of their family.
Don't leave everything to your husband; regardless of how rich or comfortable he might be. Work gives value and is dignifying. The proverbs 31 woman here is described as being "strong & energetic" there is nothing that signifies that she waits for her husband to get or do something meaningful for herself, her husband & children. If there's anything I've learnt in my years of marriage,
--->its that a man appreciates a productive wife more than an unproductive one.
--->A productive wife also more valued by her husband, children, family and society than an unproductive one.
--->A productive wife is more of a help meet than an un productive one
--->A productive wife is more fulfilled than an unproductive one
Its difficult to ignore a woman of value, which is why this proverbs 31 woman could not be set aside
Look at your home, your marriage. What value are you adding?
What is /are your contributions?
If you cannot identify or answer this questions, then I'm afraid you have been tearing down your home rather than building.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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Twitter: @homebuilders012
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Email: homebuilderssn@gmail.com