The Macmillan dictionary defines favour as " a behaviour that helps someone and gives them an advantage in an unfair way"To find favour means to be approved, be held in high esteem, to show exceptional kindness beyond what is expected even it means breaking rules or protocol.
While doing my research, I discovered that as much as every wife desires to find favour before or enjoy her husbands favour, it would be an impossible task except a certain condition is fulfilled.
Proverbs 18:22 says " He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the lord" According to John Gill's Exposition of the Bible while commenting on the above scripture, he stated that the finding of a good wife is an evidence or a receipt of Gods favour. In order words a good wife can be said to be Gods favour.
Now, if we as wives ought to be Gods favour to our husbands, (kindly follow me through here to get my point) it implies that we ourselves(wives) ought to have found favour first before God. The favour we find before God ought to have been obtained while we were yet single. It when we become favored by God that He hand picks us as a Favoured Gift for our life partner.
As a wife, we ought to be the evidence of Gods favour to our husband.
That being said, I began to study the lives of women( Ruth & Esther) in the bible who enjoyed favour from their husbands, and two things became clear to me;
1. The favour they enjoyed from their husbands was not because of anything they did by their own physical effort, but as a carry over of the favour of God existing upon their lives even before they got married
2. They obtained this favour from God because he was pleased with them and their ways.
Every wife seeks to be favored by her husband; because trust me it makes your marriage more enjoyable, it causes your husband to regard you and regard your opinions, be held in high esteem & shown exceptional kindness beyond what is expected.
This is what every wife desires but not what every wife gets. From my own personal experience and the lives of these two women in the bible, I discovered that;
. finding favour from one's husband is impossible without first finding it before God.
2. this favour from God is what releases his wisdom to us (wives) teaching us what to do, and how to find favour before our husbands.
Its really important that we get the process. Without favour from God, its impossible to find favour before our spouses.
Next week, we will look at the lives of these women of grace mentioned in the bible, and see what they did to find favour before God. After which we will begin to explore practical ways the wisdom of God can teach us to find favour before our spouses.
Until then, keep praying, keep building and make pleasing God your priority this week.
Eyitemi The HomeBuilder
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