DEAR DIARY (Digging my foundation)

"Actions, looks, words and steps form the alphabet by which you may spell character. "
Johann Kasper Lavater

Dear Diary,
I've been thinking for a while now about the person I see in the mirror.
I've been thinking for a while now, if that person is the best that can be right now. Looking around society, it seems as though every one and everything I have ever believed in has been nothing but a lie. A big one @ that. Of all the many things I see around me, the successes, achievement and great feats of men I have discovered something amiss. I have discovered that even though their tree seems strong and with seemingly ever green leaves, they lack roots, depths, and will come down at the slightest appearance of adversity.
I've seen that marriage is not any different. Its more than the anticipation of the big day, beyond the sparkly white gown of the bride and the well fitted tuxedo of the groom; beyond the display of skill and creativity on the wedding cake, and more than the crowd of witness who are bound to disperse at the end of the day.
 I've seen that all those things are never enough, neither do they guarantee that the house will stand.
Although I am not yet old, grey and bent over a walking stick, it doesn't take a  rocket scientist to figure out that there's something wrong with marriages in our society today.
I remember correctly what was told to me by my mother and my grandmother. Not by the words of their mouth, but by the way I saw them live their lives.
I saw their lives reflect the strength of their character.
I saw the ability of character to build a home of brick; thus making it almost impossible for the big bad wolf to bring it down with its huffing and puffing.
I remember the word of Isaac Newton " if I have ever succeeded at all, it's by standing on the shoulder of giants who have gone ahead of me"
Although these women are not perfect, neither are their husbands, but I have decided to allow their lives be mirrored in mine.
I have learnt that the deeper my roots, my character, the greater the chances of the survival of my future marriage.
Of course I want a godly husband, but I have come to realize that the success of the race of 2, is dependent on the strength of the individuals involved. Like a relay team, the team is only as strong and the individual on the team, and each runner is responsible for the cumulative success of the team.
While I wait to be found, I have resolved to build my character. I will learn to persevere, be prayerful, be productive, make selfless decisions, be submissive, and true to myself.
As I pen down my thoughts, I will remember that my " Actions, looks, words and steps form the alphabet by which you may spell character". Just as Johann Kasper Lavater has wisely said.
Just as everyman is the architect of his own fortune, I will say that everyman is the architect of his/ her own character.
Character is an essentiality, you and I cannot do without to make that marriage last a lifetime.
Until next time dear diary,
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@ Singles, the success of your marriage depends strongly on the strength of your character. If you dig deep enough now while you're single, seeing every challenge as an opportunity for growth and to get it right, you will reap the benefits .
Don't be deceived by the easy life, because even as beautiful as roses are, beneath the bed are thorns.
Don't be tempted to take the easy way out, identify the skills you need to be a good homemaker, wife and mother and learn them.
Your future is counting on it.
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