TREAT YOUR HUSBAND LIKE ROYALTY

After going through Psalm 45:11 I was amazed ;           " The King adores you,              He is your master,              So do what he desires " (CEV)            " The King is wild for you,              Since he is your Lord, adore him, (MSG)            " For your royal husband delights in your beauty,              Honour him for he is your Lord " (NLT) Two things struck me here,; the word King was used interchangably for the word husband in the first 2 versions & in the 3rd version he was called "royal husband ". That tells me that my husband is my crown, my King and I ought to treat him like royalty. I remember listening to an older woman sighted a classic example. According to her young wives on the average usually keep their finest china (plates) and glassware for special occassions to thrill & serve guest. In her opinion which I now subscribe to, the finest and best china should be used to serve the most important person in our lives - Our Husband. Often times, the stress of everyday living makes your touchy, & grouchy and you might end up responding to your husband in a not so good way (I get that way at times) . All the same if you have it at the back of your mind that your husband is a King and the most important person in your life, your actions will align to treat him like royalty. Moving on to the second half of this verse, the bride is told on how she is expected to respond to her Royal husband.  Whether she's adoring him, doing what he desires or honouring him, it all comes down to one thing -RESPECT. A man is NEVER COMPLETE, NEVER SATISFIED & NEVER HAPPY if he cannot command the respect of those around him, especially his wife. Respect is to a man's esteem what food id to the belly. If you cannot respect him, you can't win his heart, If you cannot win his heart, you can't get his favour, If you cannot get his favour, your marriage cannot suceed. As much as every man differs and what might be insulting for A might not be for B, there are basic ground rules. In a movie I  watched tittled "A FAMILY THAT PREYS " by Tyler Perry, I watched a young wife tell her husband "DON'T BE SILLY "! Now I thought to myself that the average Nigerian man would never accept this ... It might be aceeptable in another part of the world, but would be considered as downright rudeness here in Nigeria. Therefore in treating your husband like royalty you must watch how you speak to him. It your speech won't make him feel any better, ZIP IT! Another way you can make your husband feel like royalty is putting in effort to make him special meals. Some people say the fastest way to a man's heart is through his belly ; while I don't subscribe to that school of thought, I believe every man likes good food. There's a whole lot of difference between food you just put together & food you put in effort to make -trust me men can tell the difference.  They appreciate it when you do that and it makes them feel a whole lot special. Whether it's once or twice a week,  make sure you put up something special for that man. Respect must be given to your husband at 3 levels - Respect him in words - Respect him in thought - Respect him in deeds (action) Disrespect can cost you your royal benefits, just like it did to Queen Vashti -Esther 1:1-end (she disrespected her husband in deeds) .... There's always a Price for disrespecting your husband & trust me you don't want to pay it. Eyitemi Adebowale is an author, public speaker and a relationship /marriage coach working with Single Women and Young Wives who are new to the home building process. She is the Founder of HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL whose vision is to build homes one wise woman at a time. She's also a lifestyle writer for Naija Parrot. She is happily married to Adesoji Adebowale and they are blessed with a child. For more of our articles visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com and register your email address to receive our updates in your box For questions, enquiries, or comments, send a mail to homebuilderssn@gmail.com You can also follow on twitter @homebuilders012