LESSONS FROM THE WELL FOR THE SINGLE & MARRIED WOMAN

LESSONS FROM THE WELL FOR THE SINGLE & MARRIED WOMAN Back in the days, especially in the middle east, WELLS were one of the most valuable asset an individual could posses that point in time; due to the scarcity of water prevalent in that region. This explains why Abraham and Isaac constantly had to settle disputes and contentions over their wells. The level of civilization at that time coupled with what the people did for a living (Herding & Agriculture) placed a heavy demand on water. A WELL was an assets and whoever owned one guarded it jealously. In the book of proverbs 5:15-20, a wife was likened to a WELL or FOUNTAIN OF WATER. The common word there being water; it was like the life force of everything that existed. I believe there are a lot of lessons we as women could learn from this “OLD WISE WELL” whether we are single or married. 3 LESSONS FROM THE WELL WATERED WELL 1.PRIVATE PROPERTY: The moment you get married, you belong to your husband alone and nobody else. Of course I know women are not some commodity to be bought and used to adorn the house, but I have used the term Private Property so it can easily be related to. A number of new brides struggle with this reality; as they tend to hold on to some of the ways they used to do things prior to I DO. I for example struggled with the idea of not being able to make my decisions independently as I used to before I got married. My husband expected that before I made any major decision whether it’s about my personal life or it concerns the both of us, we must have talked about it and agreed on the course of action to be taken. For some other women it’s their inability to manage their relationships with old friends and make time for their new husbands. Marriage is not a call to confinement or imprisonment, as some people put it. Marriage is a big deal; (Contrary to what the media wants us to believe`) it’s a covenant relationship between a man and a woman with God as the witness, the binding force and at the centre of it. Marriage should be respected. Your way of life, actions, appearance, and the words of your mouth should be a reflection of modesty, a sense of ownership to yours truly. There are public wells and there are private wells. In the Bible days, men fought over the ownership of these WELLS, (Gen 26:14-22), firstly because of what it’s worth and secondly because Public Wells had little or nothing to offer. I sometimes here single ladies say things like: I prefer being friends with boys, they are so much easier to get along with” If that is you, I guarantee you that your husband will not understand that ENGLISH of yours once you say I DO. Like I said once you get married, you belong to your husband, act like it. 2.A CALL TO SERVICE: I honestly do not think a WELL would be worth anything if it fails to provide water. The water from the well serves as a source of GROWTH, SUSTANANCE & NOURISHMENT. If what lies within you does not help your husband or your family, then you no better than a dry, polluted and abandoned well. Although the water that comes from the well is visible & tangible, the water from you as a wife is whatever essence or virtue you possesses which becomes a plus to your family. I could be your trading skills which leads to additional income for your family, it could be your homemaking skills which simplifies the life of everyone around you, it could your cooking skills which makes your entire households to come running home every evening. There must be something within you (water) that you use to serve and meet your family’s needs. MARRIAGE IS A CALL TO SERVICE 3.STAY CONNECTED TO SOURCE: No matter how privatized a well is, or how many people it serves, it will soon go dry if it’s not connected to source. As a woman (married or single) you must recognize the place of God as the giver of all inspiration. Dwelling daily on the word of God will keep you clean from every pollution, debris or dirt and help you stay fresh and relevant. The bottom line is that is that if you see yourself as a well, you will realize that your value comes from your content. i.e. what you have to offer; so the thoughts I leave you with is to ask yourself. “What kind of well are you and what kind of water do you have to offer?” ************************************************************************ Eyitemi Adebowale is an author, public speaker and a relationship /marriage coach working with Single Women and Young Wives who are new to the home building process. She is the Founder of HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL whose vision is to build homes one wise woman at a time. She is happily married to Adesoji Adebowale and they are blessed with a child. For more of our articles visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com and register your email address to receive our updates in your box For questions, enquiries, or comments, send a mail to homebuilderssn@gmail.com You can also follow on twitter @homebuilders12 ……..building homes one wise woman at a time