WHEN HE DOESN'T MEASURE UP

WHEN HE DOESN'T MEASURE UP...... Recently, I've had to be reminded about our humane nature, the mortality of each one of us & most importantly the vulnerability of man; this is the feeling you get when you're suddenly dissapointed or a much anticipated desire falls short. Prior to marriage a lot of young women are filled with dreams & anticipation of what their ideal or dream marriage would look like; but these expectations are soon met with reality- -The reality that no one is perfect, -The reality that you should not have depended or trusted so much in man -The reality that God is the only one who can fufill all your expectations without letting you down It happens in everyday life & our marriages are no exceptions. I'm not saying you should not have expectations of your husbands; for example; -you expect your husband to love you, -you expect him to be faithful to you, -you expect him to fulfill his leadership roles in your marriage & your home -You expect him to be there for your children ..... The list is varied & endless for every woman, marriage & home. But you must remember that your husband is only human & there WILL be times he won't measure up or live up to expectations ; just as You & I as Wives have failed to live it up @ some point in time. I've realized especially from experience that on the average we set expectations based on people's strenght & personalities. For example its easy to put an honest man or a man with intergrity in charge of Money because you expect him not to steal; same thing applies in your marriage . Psalm 20:7-8" some trust in chariots & some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God. They are brought to their knees & they fall, but we rise & stand firm " So the next time you experience a big let down in your marriage, take it as a subtle reminder from God telling you to trust him instead. The whole idea is to rely on The Spirit of God to work through your spouse & make up for those places where he might fall short. Zer 4:6 "its not by power or by  might, but by His Spirit. When your partner does not measure up; it's not a time to burst into a fury  of anger, -When your partner does not measure up; it's not a time to apportion blames & make him realize how incapable he is -When your partner does not measure up; it's not a time to shout it on the rooftops -When your partner does not measure up; it's not a time to hold on to malicious grudges -When your partner does not measure up; it's not a time to stop loving......... - It's a time to pray for his weaknesses & They strenght he so much needs -It's a time to love even when you don't feel like it or think he is not deserving of it (That's unconditional) A let down on the  part of your partner is a feed back process that calls for sincere & open dialouge. Your place as a partner or a wife is not to be the first one to castigate him or laugh at him when he falters; neither is is for you judge him. Your job function is to help him stand again. Ecc 4:9 says "2 are better than 1; while verse 10 says "if one falls down ;his friend can help him up " The Bible recognises there will be times we fall, times when our strenght fails us, but things will be a lot easier when there's a friend to help us up. This is the core of my message; WHEN YOUR PARTNER DOESN'T MEASURE UP; MAKE SURE YOU'RE THAT WIFE (FRIEND) WHO HELPS HIM UP(Ecc 4:9-12); NOT ONE THAT DIGS HIS GRAVE...... ®HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL  2012 .........Building homes one wise woman at a time To receive daily updates from our blog, visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com OR Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 You can also send your questions, enquiry and comments to homebuilders@gmail.com -