LESSONS FROM THE WOMAN AT THE WELL: REBECCA (FOR SINGLES) GEN24

LESSONS FROM THE WOMAN AT THE WELL :REBECCA (FOR SINGLES) Gen 24 As much as civilization has changed our world & the way we live ,some things will always  remain. When it comes to love, romance and marriage men & women  have always wanted the same thing.  Every man desires a woman who is decent, beautiful, hardworking, committed and every good virtue you can Imagine; while every single lady desires to be found by some "Prince Charming " These were the same desires women the bible days wanted and Rebecca was no exception. The point here is that of all the women who came out that evening to draw water from the well, Only one was chosen.....Let's find out why : LESSON 1: She was SELF DISCIPLINED & RESPONSIBLE ; History has it that Rebecca was born into nobility. Her father Bethuel was the ruler of Aram Naharam. So her father must have had a number of handmaidens who were available to carry out the chores.All the same, Bible records that when it was evening, the time all the young ladies came out to fetch water, Rebecca was among them. This young lady did not seat at home to look pretty while the servants did all the work, she knew the essence of training herself & preparing herself for the future.  I'm certain it was not only fetching Rebecca did, she must have done some cooking, washing & cleaning around the house. This is where most young ladies miss it. I've heard some ladies say few months before their wedding, they would take a crash course in cooking and I wonder how well they will fare. Just like Rebecca, you cannot tell exactly when your Isaac will come knocking for you and how terrible will it be if you're not ready. It doesn't matter what your background is or who your father is, get of your high horse and discipline yourself. Instill values that will be beneficial to you in the future. Imagine if Rebecca had sat back at home that evening, she would have missed out on Isaac and history. Marriage requires a lot and the earlier you start preparing, the better. Stop using that pedicure & manicure as an excuse. LESSON 2: She was KIND & EAGER TO HELP : The World is such a funny place today and what you see around is people who care about themselves alone. I know some people have gotten their fingers burnt in the process of trying to help others ; but there's a proverb in Yoruba that says " if we keep our eyes close because something entered into it, we would not know when something or someone good is passing by ". Every time you get the chance  to do something good, consider it an opportunity.  The prayer you should be praying as a single lady is that God should open your eyes to opportunities that would yield positive results. Rebecca did not know Elizer from Adam, neither did he look incapable of getting water for himself & his team (10 other men who travelled with him) yet she responded to him nicely and eagerly when he asked for water. Some ladies are still single because they have not mastered the art of being nice to others and being genuiely selfless & become sensitive to the needs of others. LESSON 3: She had INITIATIVE : I remember as a teenager, if i walked past a piece of litter on the floor or a something that wasn't in the right place, my father would ask me to use my initiative and do the right thing. Initiative in its simplest  term was the ability to do the right thing without begin told. Initiative was what put Rebecca in Elizers radar. Not only was she KIND, COURTEOUS & WILLING TO HELP, initiative told her the Camels must have been exhausted too. When you see something that shouldn't be, dont wait to be told before you do the right thing. Initiative is a sign of maturity and it might be the trait that causes that Prince Charming to notice you. LESSON 4: She was HARDWORKING & HAD STRONG WORK ETHICS. Do have any idea what it means to give water to camels to drink? . I understand that for one camel to be satisfied it would need about 20-30 gallons of water. Now Imagine how much water 10 thirsty camels would have needed. 200 gallons at the very least. Now Imagine Rebecca fetching 200 gallons to satisfy a stranger. It's not like she knew what was on his mind or the kind of woman he was looking for, Rebecca was just being trueto herself. No man wants to marry a lazy woman, not only because she would become a liability to him, what would she teach her children? Lazyness is not an attractive feature& trust me no amount of Mary Kay, Brazillian weavon or body figure can make up for it. The Proverbs 31 woman was refered to as an early riser and higly industrious wife. If you're lazy now that you're single, marriage will not automatically turn you into an hardworking wife. It starts now. LESSON 5: SHE WAS BEAUTIFUL :Genesis 24:15 described her as a beautiful woman & I'm sure you're wondering what beauty has to do since it usually out of your control.  True some women are more Attractive than others, but every woman is beautifully & wonderfully made. There's  a man for every colour, size, shape & height of woman in existence but we must remember that men are visual in nature and all your virtues will not be discovered if you dont look appealing.  Before we heard all about Rebecca's exploit, we were told of how beautiful she was. A lot of women came to that well, but Elizer chose her. Please Ladies, in getting your Isaac, there's a part for God to play & there's a part for you to play. God will not come down to dress you. He has made you beautifully, how you present yourself is your choice. , LESSON 6: SHE HAD DEVOTION TO HER UNSEEN HUSBAND & FAITH IN GOD'S PLAN FOR HER LIFE. After Elizer had delivered his message, he wanted to leave with Rebecca the next day but her family wanted her to stay for a few more days. Eventually Rebecca was asked to make a choice and she chose to leave. For me I was wowed. She had no idea who this Isaac was, neither did she know if he would love her, if she would love him of whether they would be compatible. She only knew one thing.  The marriage had been agreed upon, Isaac was now her husband and her devotion & loyalty must be to him. I know the situation is different these days and you might be wondering just how can you show devotion your future husband? It's in your everyday life- you show devotion to your future husband by keeping yourself, watch what you do, how you dress, talk & people you associate with. Ask yourself in every situation, if your future husband were to see you now, would he be proud of who you are, your actions?  If would he be ashamed. These days I've heard stories of young men who go on the internet to conduct a cyber search on ladies that interest them. So Imagine if you have gone in some crazy adventure, and the have some nude picture of yourself on the net. Or those crazy pictures of young ladies being circulated on the phone. If your future husband finds out about your past, would he proud?  If the answer is NO,  then watch it. Live each day in devotion to your future hearthrob. LESSON 7: SHE HAD FAITH IN GOD'S PLAN FOR HER LIFE. Nobody can teach you this just like no one taught Rebecca. If its God, you must learn to let go & trust. This is a lesson all women (single or married)  must learn to embrace. As a single lady, you must trust in God's plan for a suitable partner, don't try to manipulate a man into being your husband,  trust God & allow things unfold. Faith in God is the ultimate because God wont let you down. Eyitemi Adebowale is an author, public speaker and a relationship /marriage coach working with Single Women and Young Wives who are new to the home building process. She is the Founder of HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL whose vision is to build homes one wise woman at a time. She is happily married to Adesoji Adebowale and they are blessed with a child. For more of our articles visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com and register your email address to receive our updates in your box For questions, enquiries, or comments, send a mail to homebuilderssn@gmail.com You can also follow on twitter @homebuilders12 ……..building homes one wise woman at a time