LOVERS AND FRIENDS

For all the married couples out there, you might not have married your best friend, but it's never too late to make your "Husband/Wife" your best friend
Have you ever notice how long and boring a trip or a walk might seem when you're taking it on your own or walking with strangers? Compare it to how short, interesting and pleasant the same trip can be when taking with friends?
Marriage is no different. It's a journey of a life time and trust me you don't want to be making that journey with acquaintances or strangers. To get the best experience, you need to be making that journey with your friend- Spouse- Husband- Soul mate
The place of Friendship in your marital relationship is so important and it must not be under-estimated because when the butterflies in your belly have stopped fluttering, and the flame of passion has fizzled out, your friendship is perpetual.
There are times when you might not feel so in love with your partner, but you can count on your friendship still.
Being friends, best friends with your spouse, is priceless.
---> A friend is a confidant who you can pour your heart to without fear of judgment
---> A friend is someone who sees the best and the worst in you, yet he/she stays
----> A friends has your back even when the world is against you
---> A friend shares your pain, joy, high moments and low moments
Friendship with your spouse requires an important ingredient "TIME"
Don't be too busy for your partner or your marriage.
Spend time together because only then will you discover more about each other
Whatever or Whoever you spend time with is reflection of what's important to you.
Love without friendship can be empty, but love between friends is priceless.

Eyitemi TheHomeBuilder

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THE SHADE OF A GOOD UNION

While sitting under a big tree one sunny afternoon to take shade from the vengeful heat of the scorching sun, I became inspired to write this post.

Despite the weather situation, being under this big tree made me feel differently. Yes I was not oblivious of the scorching heat, but I was not a victim of its vengeful heat either. Being under this tree made a difference and there was no way I was leaving there until I was ready to leave.

The same should be said of our marriages. Marriage is supposed to be a shade, provide protection and shield you from the harsh conditions of the society.

Your marriage is supposed to be that place you run to and feel safe when pressure begins to mount from the society

Your marriage is supposed to be a reliable safe zone when insecurities abound.

Just like the tree, it does not change what is going on outside, but it shields you, keeps you safe and protected.

If your marriage is like this, then you can be sure that when you come home to your spouse and kids, you're bound to feel relaxed and comfortable regardless of how bad your day had been

Often times when you see people who are not eager or who do not long to go home to their spouse and kids, it either of two things;

----> it's either they feel safer in where they are or they have some other safe zone, asides their home, marriage & spouse.

Wives especially need to consciously make sure their home/ marriage is a safe zone for every member of the family.

Make it a place they long to be in and are reluctant to leave; and I'm not just talking about the interior decoration alone.

As home builders we have been charged with the responsibility of making the best out of our homes and marriages.

>Understand and strive to meet the needs of your family members

>Don't be too temperamental or judgmental

>Give room for your spouse and children to fail because only then will they be inspired to try again until success becomes a reality

>learn to use the right words to nurture, heal and correct when necessary

The list is endless but the general idea is to make sure you do what is needed to make your marriage a safe zone

One more salient and important ingredient needed to make your marriage a safe zone is to have a healthy relationship with your spouse. The union of you both is what resulted into a marriage and it takes both of you to grow and nurture your relationship.

The dividend of a good marriage goes beyond the man and his wife. Just like the big tree I sat under which shaded not just myself but every one who sought protection from the sun's venting; so will your children, great grandchildren, friends, loved ones and even strangers benefit from the umbrella your successful union.

Keep building

Eyitemi TheHomeBuilder

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FAITHFULNESS BEFORE I DO

1. It's great to be here with everyone this evening #StasWeek

2. I'm trusting God for opened eyes & opened minds and ready hearts #StasWeek

3. When you here the word " Faithful" especially as it borders on relationships, what's the 1st thing that comes to mind ? #Stasweek

4. Some think fidelity, cheating, extra marital affairs and most importantly you get the idea it's an issues for married folks #StasWeek

5. How often have you ever thought that "faithfulness" could be a subject of concern for you as a single? #StasWeek

6. Probably very few times or never #StasWeek

7. Contrary to what you might think or assume, faithfulness is not a things for married couples only #StasWeek

8. Faithfulness starts long before marriage. It's a mind set, a learned habit and a way of life. #StasWeek

9. Faithfulness is not some random spirit that drops on you once you get married. #StasWeek

10. Faithfulness, true faithfulness is the life you live, and who you are long before say "I DO" #StasWeek

11. Faithfulness is not just about whether you have pre-marital sex, it's the total package. #StasWeek

12. Faithfulness is of the heart & mind. It is what guarantees purity . #StasWeek

13. Faithfulness is a lifestly which requires a conscious effort, constant evaluation and accountability #StasWeek

14. Some people are of the opinion that the reason they can't stay faithful is because they have not met right person #StasWeek

15. Apologies, but allow me break your bubble by saying this: that is a lie from the pit of hell #StasWeek

16. Faithfulness is about the way you lived and you are living before you meet your life partner #StasWeek

17. Imagine your future partner had access to the candid camera of your life right now, do you think he'll be proud? #StasWeek

18. Would he/she be eager to spend the rest of their lives with you, or would they rather be celibate than marry you? #StasWeek

19. Think about that for a moment? #StasWeek

20: Faithfulness as a single lady, is about those little things you do on a daily bases which honour your future partner #StasWeek

21. Faithfulness as a single man/ lady is leaving a life that honours your future partner #StasWeek

22. Faithfulnessmeans living to love and honour your future husband all the days of your life. #StasWeek

23. Faithfulness before I DO means that you honour your future spouse with #StasWeek (1/2)

24. Your tots, actions, words ,emotion an your body (2/2). #StasWeek

25. I need to understand me here, because this is a new dimension to faithfulness. #StasWeek

26. Some people think Purity is not Possible in today's world, but I believe we are focusing on the wrong things #StasWeek

27. If we focus on faithfulness, purity will come naturally. The two go side by side #StasWeek

28. A single Man/ woman who goes into marriage without understanding the concept of faithfulness (1/2) #StasWeek

29. Is disaster waiting to happen (2/2) #StasWeek

30. Faithfulness is like an oak tree that patiently endured the torrid winds and rains, (1/2) #StasWeek

31. Only to become stronger and solid as a result. #StasWeek

32. God is a rewarder of every form of faithfulness #StasWeek

33. He rewarded Ruth with Her Boaz because of her faithfulness; even though the world thought she was stupid #StasWeek

34. He is still the same God, he never changes. He will all also reward your faithfulness and non-conformity #StasWeek

35. Faithfulness is what unlocks the secret to the kind of love you have been looking for. #StasWeek

FAITHFULNESS BEFORE I DO

1. It's great to be here with everyone this evening #StasWeek

2. I'm trusting God for opened eyes & opened minds and ready hearts #StasWeek

3. When you here the word " Faithful" especially as it borders on relationships, what's the 1st thing that comes to mind ? #Stasweek

4. Some think fidelity, cheating, extra marital affairs and most importantly you get the idea it's an issues for married folks #StasWeek

5. How often have you ever thought that "faithfulness" could be a subject of concern for you as a single? #StasWeek

6. Probably very few times or never #StasWeek

7. Contrary to what you might think or assume, faithfulness is not a things for married couples only #StasWeek

8. Faithfulness starts long before marriage. It's a mind set, a learned habit and a way of life. #StasWeek

9. Faithfulness is not some random spirit that drops on you once you get married. #StasWeek

10. Faithfulness, true faithfulness is the life you live, and who you are long before say "I DO" #StasWeek

11. Faithfulness is not just about whether you have pre-marital sex, it's the total package. #StasWeek

12. Faithfulness is of the heart & mind. It is what guarantees purity . #StasWeek

13. Faithfulness is a lifestly which requires a conscious effort, constant evaluation and accountability #StasWeek

14. Some people are of the opinion that the reason they can't stay faithful is because they have not met right person #StasWeek

15. Apologies, but allow me break your bubble by saying this: that is a lie from the pit of hell #StasWeek

16. Faithfulness is about the way you lived and you are living before you meet your life partner #StasWeek

17. Imagine your future partner had access to the candid camera of your life right now, do you think he'll be proud? #StasWeek

18. Would he/she be eager to spend the rest of their lives with you, or would they rather be celibate than marry you? #StasWeek

19. Think about that for a moment? #StasWeek

20: Faithfulness as a single lady, is about those little things you do on a daily bases which honour your future partner #StasWeek

21. Faithfulness as a single man/ lady is leaving a life that honours your future partner #StasWeek

22. Faithfulnessmeans living to love and honour your future husband all the days of your life. #StasWeek

23. Faithfulness before I DO means that you honour your future spouse with #StasWeek (1/2)

24. Your tots, actions, words ,emotion an your body (2/2). #StasWeek

25. I need to understand me here, because this is a new dimension to faithfulness. #StasWeek

26. Some people think Purity is not Possible in today's world, but I believe we are focusing on the wrong things #StasWeek

27. If we focus on faithfulness, purity will come naturally. The two go side by side #StasWeek

28. A single Man/ woman who goes into marriage without understanding the concept of faithfulness (1/2) #StasWeek

29. Is disaster waiting to happen (2/2) #StasWeek

30. Faithfulness is like an oak tree that patiently endured the torrid winds and rains, (1/2) #StasWeek

31. Only to become stronger and solid as a result. #StasWeek

32. God is a rewarder of every form of faithfulness #StasWeek

33. He rewarded Ruth with Her Boaz because of her faithfulness; even though the world thought she was stupid #StasWeek

34. He is still the same God, he never changes. He will all also reward your faithfulness and non-conformity #StasWeek

35. Faithfulness is what unlocks the secret to the kind of love you have been looking for. #StasWeek

LEAVE THE PAST BEHIND

If there's anything true about life, it's the fact that nobody can move forward while looking backwards.

Regardless of whatever our domain or specialty in life, moving forward brings about satisfaction to the human race.

Contrary to what you might have seen, heard or experience, marriage is a beautiful thing. It is even more beautiful if it enjoys an upwardly mobile motion.

In so many marriages, individuals come together with so much baggage and weight that it pulls down on their relationships with their spouses. Too often we hold on to the wrong things and we end up holding back the opportunity to enjoy a blissful relationship.

One of the major principles of marriage as stated in the book of Creation (Genesis 2:24) is the" Leave and Cleave "principle.

Many marriages are going downhill because one or both couples have failed to "Leave" and and wandering why they can't " Cleave".

There's so much to leave behind, if you want your marriage to enjoy that much desired upward motion.

1. YOUR PAST: There no doubt that everyone including myself has a past that we are not too proud of, but failure to let go can be catastrophic. Your past existed for a reason, it tells a story of where you are coming from, but it cannot define who you are unless you let it. Recognize where you are now especially as it relates to your marriages, and live in the now.

Whether it was an event, something that happened to you or someone you know, in your past, as long as it stands in the way of letting your marriage be all that it can be, leave it all behind

I once heard the story of a newly married lady who could not let go of her single days, habit and friends. She barely cooked @ home for her new husband, she was more interested in visiting the movies, buying take outs and partying.

While there's nothing wrong in wanting to relax and entertain yourself once in a while, this young lady failed to understand, and accept her new role and life as a wife.

Don't get stuck in your past, because you'll be dragging your partner and marriage @ large back.

2. YOUR FRIENDS & FAMILY:
Don't get me wrong on this. I'm not asking that you alienate yourself from your loved ones, I'm asking that you know where to draw the line. Your parents marriage and that of your friends are different from yours- it's important you know this.

Your number one loyalty should be to your spouse and you should flee from anyone who seeks to contest that . Now that your married, live your married live in that consciousness

3. PAST ISSUES: One of the things I used to do very early in my marriage was to constantly refer to my husband's past failures. While that made be win the battle, little did I know that I was loosing the war on my marriage. Your spouse will most certainly hurt you, and not only must you be quick to forgive, you must forget it, let it go, and try not to make further references to it. No matter how tempting it may seem.

Living in the past hinders growth, brings about regrets, stagnation and lots of heart ache. Don't dwell on it, learn from it and move on

Eyitemi The HomeBuilder

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