While sitting under a big tree one sunny afternoon to take shade from the vengeful heat of the scorching sun, I became inspired to write this post.
Despite the weather situation, being under this big tree made me feel differently. Yes I was not oblivious of the scorching heat, but I was not a victim of its vengeful heat either. Being under this tree made a difference and there was no way I was leaving there until I was ready to leave.
The same should be said of our marriages. Marriage is supposed to be a shade, provide protection and shield you from the harsh conditions of the society.
Your marriage is supposed to be that place you run to and feel safe when pressure begins to mount from the society
Your marriage is supposed to be a reliable safe zone when insecurities abound.
Just like the tree, it does not change what is going on outside, but it shields you, keeps you safe and protected.
If your marriage is like this, then you can be sure that when you come home to your spouse and kids, you're bound to feel relaxed and comfortable regardless of how bad your day had been
Often times when you see people who are not eager or who do not long to go home to their spouse and kids, it either of two things;
----> it's either they feel safer in where they are or they have some other safe zone, asides their home, marriage & spouse.
Wives especially need to consciously make sure their home/ marriage is a safe zone for every member of the family.
Make it a place they long to be in and are reluctant to leave; and I'm not just talking about the interior decoration alone.
As home builders we have been charged with the responsibility of making the best out of our homes and marriages.
>Understand and strive to meet the needs of your family members
>Don't be too temperamental or judgmental
>Give room for your spouse and children to fail because only then will they be inspired to try again until success becomes a reality
>learn to use the right words to nurture, heal and correct when necessary
The list is endless but the general idea is to make sure you do what is needed to make your marriage a safe zone
One more salient and important ingredient needed to make your marriage a safe zone is to have a healthy relationship with your spouse. The union of you both is what resulted into a marriage and it takes both of you to grow and nurture your relationship.
The dividend of a good marriage goes beyond the man and his wife. Just like the big tree I sat under which shaded not just myself but every one who sought protection from the sun's venting; so will your children, great grandchildren, friends, loved ones and even strangers benefit from the umbrella your successful union.
Keep building
Eyitemi TheHomeBuilder
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