DEAR DIARY: (THE UNTANGLED KNOT)

Have you ever tried to undo a knot so tight that it drives you nuts? Well that was my experience today. I had tied my shoe lace so tightly and un-fastening it was becoming an ordeal of a life time.

The more I struggled with it, the more I found it difficult to undo this erroneous action of mine. After struggling for a while, I realized that the only way to put myself out of this misery was to cut through the tangled knot I had created.

It was a real "Aha aaa" moment for me as it suddenly dawned on me that my life could turn out as this "tangled knot" if proper precaution was not taken. As a single lady, there's a tendency to get involved in twisted relationships due to ignorance or lack of direction.

Relationships that You, I and the whole world know from inception isn't going to work. The further you go into that relationship, the more tangled you become, and the more difficult it is to untangle you

Relationships define us, they have the power to make or mar us and our dreams. Getting involved with the wrong persons can create so much damage which ripples down into every other domain of your life.

The story of a young lady comes to mind @ a time like this.

" Naomi was a full of life "A" student for whom the future held so much promise was. She was the ideal student, daughter and role model until she met Richard. The attraction was instant as the duo became an inseparable item. Everything seemed okay until Naomi began a downward spiral to her end. She began to skip classes, sell her personal items and that of others for money and ultimately became addicted to drugs and wild parties.

Every effort to get her life back on track proved abortive until the worst happened. Richard was killed during a drug raid and his death caused Naomi to sink into a depression that worsened her addiction.

The situation reached its height when Naomi was found lying down on the floor in her bathroom with a syringe in her hands. Naomi had overdone it and passed out.

She was rushed to the hospital, thankfully she survived , and is currently recuperating in a rehab centre.

It's been 2yrs since she began her journey to recovery and although she has since made a lot of progress, she is not where she ought to be. The story of Naomi can be likened to that of the shoe-lace I had to cut after failing to unfasten it. She was forcefully dis-entangled from that relationship but she was never the same.

Don't ever assume you alone can make things right in a relationship, especially when you're single & dating or courting as the case maybe. Why commence a relationship with a guy who takes weed, Indian hemp or even cocaine? He drag you into a world so deep, that you'll be buried alive with no hope of making it back to the surface again

Or hook up with a drunk, a violent person( who beats the living daylight out of you( even when you're not married- you'd most likely be dead before you say "I DO")

Open your pretty brown eyes, I beg of you and take a walk while you still can, before you become so tangled that it would only take an intervention to set you free.

The only way I ended up removing that shoe lace was by cutting it with a pair of scissors and as I looked @ the now cut shoelace, it was a real-time example of what happens afterwards.

For those who are lucky enough to come out of this tangling situation alive, they never return the same way. They often return broken and damaged but never the same as they were before they went it.

Some relationships are like that ; TANGLED KNOTS" and should not be embarked upon from the word go. Some mistakes are irreversible, leaving their scars long after the pain had healed.

Don't mess up your beautiful life by further complicating it with involvement in the wrong relationship.
Our lives are shaped and can be measured by the people in it.

If you get so tangled up and an attempt to breakfree becomes an uphill task, then know that you'll require nothing short an intervention to be free!!!

 

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