The month began with looking @ how you can make your self the right kind of woman rather than waiting for the right man. The more I stuidied and researched I discovered an old truth, that we (women) were made for men, and not the other way round. At the risk of evoking the wrath of feminist who believe in girl power and the rest, the truth remains.
@ creation, God made women as a response to the need of the man. He saw that the man was lonely, he needed a companion , a help meet, a supporter and voila, the woman was born.
So you were created to meet your husbands needs, to make his life easier not complicate it and help him be all that God wants him to be. When those needs are met 1st, he(husbands) will in turn meet our needs ( that's a discussion for another day)Gen 2:18 says that its not good for man to be alone, I'll make him a helper that's right for him.
The key word here is a helper that's "right" for him. Not every woman is the right helper; and you cannot be the right helper if you cannot ascertain what your man's needs are.
According to Debbi Pearl,there are majorly 3 kinds of men and knowing what makes this men thick is what will help you prepare yourself to be his needs and be the "right" woman for him.THE PROPHET MAN.
Just as there are 3 sides to God (God the Father, God the Son and God the HolySpirit) so do we have the varied nature of man. God created man to express the different aspect of his image. We were made in his likeness and as such, we carry the various nature of God. The Prophet man here refers to the Holy Spirit. This is the creative part of the trinity.
This kind of man is an initiator, a creative person, a dreamer, an inventor. They are the ones who become Movers and Shakers of our world who see things that need to be changed
----->Prophets are SPORADIC &SPONTANEOUS thus they need a STABLE WIFE.
----->They communicate with music, writing, arts or their actions and they need a Wife who can APPRECIATE or ACCEPT THE ART IN THEM
Prophets are usually consumed by their projects or whatever they focus on , so they make great boyfriends because when the chase is hot, they are consumed by you, they focus on you, shower you with gifts and attention consider you their greatest challenge until it resolved ( marriage).
Don't get upset with this attitude but rather understand its their nature to contantly be on the look out for the next big thing. It doesn't mean they will totally abandon their wives and fly off to space to make a mark, as a matter of fact, a Prophets needs the constant affirmation of his wife to excel you must simply learn to share them with other projects in their life.
----->Which is why "every woman" needs a vibrant life before your man comes on the scene. A clingy wife who lacks drives, ambition, goals is a liabilty not an asset.
-----> Once married to a prophet, you must learn to be flexible, turn a blind eye and go with the flow.
Prophet men live the roller coaster kins of life. He can invest all that he has in an idea he believes in before thinking about the family's needs and survival thus you must be able to show support and enthusiasm for his work while making him realize the family's needs.
The upside of a prophets is is his creativity and tenaciousness in the face of difficulty which is why they often suceed @ their chosen endeavours.
----->to enjoy your relationship with this kind of man, you need to develop a mind set that he doesn't have to be right for you to follow him
A prophet needs his wife to be his No.1 fan . Its you he will share all his ideas with first and you MUST receive them with enthusiasm.
----->Because a prophet man often makes impulsive decisions, his wife needs to be someone who is not easily Offended.
----->Prophet men are often consumed by their projects and might not notice your fine cooking, new hairstyle or new dress, so don't get upset.
----->Prophet men are subjective and emotional about almost everything thus their wives need to be OBJECTIVE, RATIONAL AND CLEAR HEADED @ all times to help keep him on track ; focused on the big picture.
A lady once shared with me. She said her husband was an impulsive person who will get filled with bright ideas and pursue them before thinking it through.
She said if he draws up a plan, that's it. There's usually no back up plan. So when her man makes Plan A, she makes up Plan B, C, D as back-up and most times that had been the saving grace.
----->They are also intense people so you must be careful to ensure matters do not get out of hand. They need their Wives to STAY POSITIVE at all timesIf you end up with a prophet, your knowledge of him determines how " right you can be for him"
I strongly believe that the term MR. Right has to be thrown out the window.
As I stated earlier we are the ones designed for them, God's word talks about being "the right helpmeet" the correct thing to say is Miss Right for those who are not married.
And for all my married sisters out there, take the focus of yourself. One major reason why it seems like your marriage is not working is because you focus so much on the man. You want him to change this, change that, be more like this or like that.... When it should be the other way around.
Except its a negative or bad habit capable of destroying his life, yours and that of your children,stop praying for that man to be more like you or whoever.
Start asking God to show you what this man needs and help you meet to those Needs only then will you begin to enjoy your marriage and your man.
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