Fall is that colourful season where the leaves on a tree Change colours from green, to yellow, to orange. As colourful as this season is, the leaves begin to drop of one another until the tree is bare . When a marriage is in early fall it seems okay on the outside, but on the inside things are changing & it takes, the chilly winds to blows causing all the leaves to fall off exposing a bare tree. The fall season is the prelude to Winter and the actions you take can plung into Winter or take you back to Spring. it's relatively easy to spot a relationship or marriage that is heading towards fall except you don't want to be truthful to yourself. How many times do you get the feeling of sadneness, emotional depletion, rejection, that feeling of drawing apart....... those emotions tell you fall is at hand. You can either ignore it and let your relationship slide into Winter or you can take positive steps and go back to Spring. During fall season, couples are aware that there's a problem but they simply choose to ignore it. They become troubled and greatly concerned with the state of things.
If you find yourself or your relationship in a state like this, it means you have been doing any of the following :
1. NEGLECT / DOING NOTHING :
before your relationship or marriage can deteriorate to this season, it means one or both of you have been neglecting each other. Couples get so engrossed with everyday activities that they forget to nuture the very essence of their togetherness. They assume the marriage will take Care of itself, Consequently they grow apart. Most times they are jolted back to reality that their relationship is in the fall season when a crises occurs such as infidelity; but the truth is that they have been in fall for a while ; they simply failed to notice it.
2. PURSUANCE OF SELF INTEREST : I've been in this situation before so i know exactly what I'm talking about. Over time, either as a result of distance or routine, couples become engrossed in their Own World, doing their Own thing.... My husband and I got so carried away that we only communicated about our basic needs. Not that we were fighting, but we were too busy for ourseleves. We were forming other ties, and soon enough, we were in the Winter season .
Saving a marriage is no joke. I've come to realize that it takes two parties to save a marriage, but only one to bring it down. Don't wait till your relationship is in winter, before you get out there, because trust me " in marriage, maintanance is cheaper than repair "
Eyitemi The Home Builder
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