HOW TO BUILD: THE PROVERBS 31 WOMANS BLUE PRINT

As a sequel to my previous article "BUILD IN DEEDS" you'll remember I mentioned that building or to be a "Home Builder" requires action; deliberate, concrete & visible doing.
Now its not enough for us to know we need to build or be willing to build,we need to know "how to" build and build successfully.
A wise man once said" the best ways to achieve success is by standing on the shoulders of those who have gone ahead of us"
Home Building is no different. It comes without argument God himself is the founder of the great institution called "Marriage" and He knows the best way to build. After going through scriptures and meditating on how God expects

us to be doing this home building business, the Holy Spirit to someone, a woman who was an active Home Builder, and a successful one at that. In fact, she was so successful that an eulogy of her and her achievements were written in the Holy Book (Bible)
Yes I am talking about the Proverbs 31 woman. She has been the perfect model since time immemorial and she will continually be for many generations to come.
In this series we will be exploring how to build our homes using this exceptional woman's method as a blue print.

1. SHE BUILDS HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER HUSBAND:
(Proverbs 31:12) " She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her" (AMP)
Countless times I have heard women speak about and treat their husbands as though he doesn't matter, especially when there are children in the picture.
Of course I believe that our children are our investments and our future. Without a doubt, they are the ones to be there for us when we are all old and grey, they are the ones to continue our legacy and they are proof that we once were; thus they are very important. That being said,we forget very quickly that these children were not a product of our own singular effort. And before they ever came into existence, our husbands were.
Asides situations where we have irresponsible men who will not live up to their husbandly and fatherly responsibilities, (in such cases, I advise women to pay close attention to their children, while trusting God for a change in their husbands) your husband should be priority 1.
Just like the Proverbs 31 woman, she built her home successfully by FIRST: " building her relationship with her husband". I honestly believe that is wisdom because if there's anything I've learnt from over 5 years of marriage, is that a marriage without the support of your better half, is misery.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew that and she made " building her relationship with her husband" her first point of call.
The question then is, "how did she build that relationship?"
The scripture above (Prov 31:12) tells us exactly how.
---> Comfort Him: to comfort your husband means to soothe him, make him feel relaxed, to cheer him up. Each time you fail to evoke these emotions from your husband, you are destroying, not building. You presence and company should make your husband feel comforted/ relaxed. The same applies to the environment of your home. Keep your environment tidy, clean and welcoming, let him feel the difference between his work environment and the home front each time he arrives. If you husband cannot associate you or your home to comfort, then you're no different from the foolish woman who tears down.
--->Encourage Him: To encourage means to support him, inspire confidence in him, to promote him. In building your relationship with your husband, you need to be his No 1 and most supportive fan. Its also imbedded in your JD(job description) as a helper or help meet. You will successfully build your relationship with your husband, when you support his dreams, goals, and careers.
---> Do him Good: There are no limitations to how much good you ought to do to your husband. The long and short of this is to treat your husband right, be kind to him, pamper him, don't deprive him and most importantly as difficult as this may sound, even when he wrongs you, don't pay evil for evil or insults for insults. ( I learnt this the hard way with my own marriage) 1Peter 3:9
Other versions of Proverbs 31:12 says that " she does him good all the days of her life" not only when he's good to her, or when he deserves it, "ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE"
Like I mentioned earlier, building a home is no easy task, but knowing how to and what to do makes it easier.
Join me next week, as we continue to explore this series on "HOW TO BUILD : Using the Proverbs 31 woman blueprint.

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BUILD IN DEEDS

I listened to a message recently which had me re-examining what I know about (proverbs 14:1). I have read this scripture over and over again, as a matter of fact, it was the scripture that birthed "HOME BUILDERS” but not once had i seen it from the preachers approach.

The message was titled “WISE or FOOLISH "by Jannelle Bradshaw of Sovereign Grace Ministries and she made a point that struck a chord in me. She said “It’s easy for us (women) to assume that although we might not necessarily be building all the time, we are defiantly not tearing down.. We tend to think we are in between. But that is not true; the Bible says a wise woman builds and a foolish woman tears down. We are constantly (consciously or unconsciously) doing one of the 2at some point. There is no in between.

I meditated on those words and it became clearer to me. Of course there's no in between when it comes to the things of God. 

• You're either on God's side or the devils side
• You're either hot or cold, (you can’t be Luke Warm or else God will spit you out. Rev 3:15-16)
• You're either building or destroying

It was a huge eye opener for me as I began to reflect on my years as a wife and a mother and I asked myself if I had been building or tearing down. I meditated further on this scripture examining all the various versions until 2 interpretation of this scripture caught my attention.

------> NEW CENTURY VERSION (NCV)

Proverbs 14:1- " A wise woman strengthens her family but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does"

-------->GOOD NEWS TRANSLATION (GNT)

Proverbs 14:1- " Homes are made by the wisdom of women; but are destroyed by foolishness.

The emphasis here is on the concluding part of the NCV version " by what what she does"

The word build or to build is a verb i.e an action word. According to dictionary definition, to build means to construct, put together,strenghten, to increase, mold, create. it involves a doing process; putting together one piece at a time over a certain period. The word build is an action word. It is measured , evaluated and determined based on what we do.

Not only is building an action word, it is an activity carried out one step at a time. When we say we  build as women , wives and mothers we must ensure that this is reflected via our actions on a daily bases. Buildings don't just materialize by wishing or talking them into existence, they require a conscious and applied effort. The same is applicable in our marriages and our homes.

So,what actions are you taking and by actions I mean deliberate and conscious ones to build your marriage/home?

 What steps are you taking to ensure your home is a success?

It is often said (although I cant verify that claim) that women constitute the largest percentage of church goers as we are mostly praying for our husbands, children, marriages and so on. asking God for one miracle or the other.

While prayer is good , you must never forget the scripture that says "faith without works is dead" (James 2:14-17). God is a miracle working God, not a magician. Every miracle He ever performed required the effort, doing or in this case, the building of man.

---> when he was to part the red sea, he asked Moses to strech forth his rod

---> when he turned water into wine, he asked men to fill the jars with water

---->when he fed the 5,000 man provided 5 loaves of bread and two fishes

---> when Peter the only natural man to ever walk on water broke the world record, he needed to step out into the sea for the miracle to occur

STOP WISHING & START DOING!

What aspect of your marriage/home is falling apart? its probably because you are failing to build in that area. In as much as both parties (husband & wife) are a necessary equation needed to make marriage work, your mandate and my mandate is to build our homes and we require Gods wisdom for that.

I like the way Gills Exposition of the whole Bible puts it.

 "Every wise woman buildeth her house , not only by her fruitfulness as Leah and Rachael built up the house of Israel; but by her good houswifery, prudent economy, looking well to the ways of her household, guiding the affairs of her home with discretion, keeping all things in a  good decorum and bringing up children in the fear and admonition of the Lord"

To build is no easy task, but it is clear that ther are only two kinds of women; the wise ones and the foolish ones. Its also clear that only the wise ones can successfully build a home.Our prater daily htne should be that that God should grant us thw wisdom to build and do the right things in and for our marriages/homes.

No wonder the Bible says in Proverbs 31:11

"her husband trust her completly, with her he has everything he needs" NCV

" her husband puts his confidence in her and he will never be poor" GNT

No man will completly trust or put his confidence in a foolish woman who knows nothing but how to pull down, tear and destroy.

LET'S GET BUILDING!!!

Join us next week as we talk about the actions we need to take to build successfully.....

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"There is no perfect marriage, & most times besides Love, commitment and the rest, the Oil that keeps the wheels of marriage moving is " FOCUS ON THE GOOD" minus the BAD & the UGLY" #JustSayingHB Eyitemi Adebowale ©HomeBuilders International

LOOK TO THE CROSS

Last week, I began with our theme for this month "PERSEVERANCE & HOLDING ON TO YOUR MARRIAGE " and I established that yes your marriage might not be all that,  but if we can learn to focus on the right & positive things in our marriage and about our spouses, then our marriages stand a chance.  If you missed that article, visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com to read "IT'S WORTH KEEPING " This week,  I want to share the story of a woman who held on to her marriage & give you too reasons to HOLD ON. As you would come to see, 1.  this woman focused on the cross & God for her situation, (she refused to focus on her husbands wrong) 2. She "let go & let God ". To hold on to your marriage does not mean you should become a manipulative, vindictive, & judgemental woman trying to force a change in your spouse & marriage. It means you should lay the situation down at the cross & ask God to take over. It means you should lift your husband & marriage up at the alter of prayer for a change & victory ...... Below is the story of the young woman ........ you would need to visit the blog to conclude the story because of it's length....... I first want to say to all those that are hurting – I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH and I am so completely in agreement of the pain you’re experiencing. I also know however that WITH JESUS he can heal ALL WOUNDS. We may not be living the way WE want to in the present moment but God has a plan and it’s perfect. He’s not a magician. We don’t get to pray and then POOF our problems magically disappear but He WILL do what He says he will. God says he will never forsake us and he will help us THROUGH our circumstances. Not over them. Not under them. THROUGH THEM. God wants us to cast our cares on Him (1 Peter 5:7). The problem is what we really want Him to do is hear our prayers and then act on them according to our timetable, our rules and our script. God is using this time while our spouse is away to REFINE US. He wants us to TAKE OUR EYES off of our spouse. To take our eyes OFF OUR CIRCUMSTANCE and have FAITH and TRUST HIM that He will do what he says He will do. Hebrews 11:1 says: Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. While we stand, while we wait, we don’t SEE changes. We don’t SEE God working but He is and we’re having faith and believing and KNOWING that God is doing what He says He will. That’s faith! I am praying that what I share, that with the blessing God has given me and wants to give everyone that through Jesus, I will touch someone and solidify what God wants from us. We, us, people, we are like the ISRAELITES. God delivered them from slavery and promised them safe arrival in THE PROMISED LAND. It was ONLY AN ELEVEN DAY JOURNEY. Instead it took them FORTY YEARS TO GET THERE! Why? They grumbled! They complained! They put everything else before God. They had just been delivered from darkness and were still complaining about what they didn’t have because things were not as they wanted. So God let them wander. Isn’t that like us today? Blinded by sin whether it’s pornography, gambling, adultery, sexual immorality, greed, fornication, lying, stealing, drugs, disrespecting our spouses, not loving our spouses, holding grudges, not forgiving? My husband was in OBVIOUS sin but I was a sinner too, my sin was just hidden behind closed doors and I didn’t even know it was sin! I complained to anyone who would listen about what my spouse was doing. I was mad! I had resentment and bitterness. Let me tell you, forgiveness is like CANCER it spreads and what it breeds will spiritually kill you. My dad walked out on my mom and she is STILL bitter, still resentful and that was over 19 years ago. I was headed down that same path, more consumed by what my spouse was doing to me then letting it all go and letting God heal me. Let me share. In 2009 my husband just after our 15th anniversary had a VERBAL BLOW UP. We were having a minor disagreement and BAM out of nowhere he let out an explosive verbal assault on things I had never heard from him before. He didn’t want to die an average man doing average things. WHAT? His life was boring and he was sick of the routine. WELL WHO ISN’T AT TIMES? He noticed how I was more of a mother than a wife. SAY WHAT? Visit http://eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com/2013/02/how-to-hold-on.html  to read up. He felt like something was missing and didn’t know what. I didn’t know at the time of this verbal assault (that lasted 3 hours) it was directed at ME. He wasn’t happy with me! He felt average WITH ME. He thought something was missing and *I* couldn’t fill it. I did not know that my husband was already imagining having an affair at this time. I didn’t know at this time that thoughts were already in his head about pursuing someone other than me. An affair starts IN THE MIND. It starts slow and builds. A person has lust in their heart sometimes and it grows until they act on it. Some people have had it growing from as far back as their childhood; they may have been sexually abused or grew up in a home with pornography in a parent or a family member. Some people like my spouse harbor unexpressed feelings for years. My husband grew up in an emotionally repressed home. His mother was manipulative and vindictive and he wasn’t allowed to speak up/out against things that bothered him. I did not know this until now. I always thought my husband was laid back and went with the flow. I didn’t know all the years we were married that my husband craved an emotionally SOUND environment free of confrontation and belittlement and that he craved affection (his mother never expresses any even now). Combine that with me and my childhood issues of having a father emotionally distant to his family and a mother, sister and brother who was very sensitive and craving his attention and often winding up on the floor in a blubbering mess, I vowed to NEVER be sensitive to ALWAYS speak up and speak out and to SAY WHAT NEEDS TO BE SAID. An explosion waiting to happen right? My spouse (and a lot of our spouses here) start building someone else up in their minds. That person becomes ALL THAT THEY THINK WE ARE NOT (and maybe we haven’t been.) I had grown to become resentful of my husband the last 4-5 years. He never defended me when his mother lashed out at me or tried to do something vindictive to me. I took him not speaking up for me as a sign of weakness which was what? A flashback to my childhood and NO ONE was going to have me under their thumb so I started believing in my mind that my husband did not even DESERVE my respect. God calls wives to respect their husbands. (Ephesians 5:33) I didn’t. I started holding back affection too. I build up in my mind that since he couldn’t do what I wanted him to do then I wouldn’t do what he wanted me to do. Oh how wrong was my thinking! My husband wasn’t weak; he just never learned that expressing himself was HEALTHY and that some confrontations are GOOD. He held everything inside until it manifested out loud because God says what we think on we act and do. My husband started believing after 15 years and never so much as looking twice at another woman that he couldn’t get what he craved from me so he looked elsewhere. Once our spouses build someone else up in their minds, we get torn down in their hearts and they believe that person is what they need, want, deserve. After a few months I found some emails of my husband flirting with another woman online. She commented on photos of his family saying “you have a beautiful family” and then promptly sent him a link to photos of her on the beach! I knew he had never met the person but they were having some sort of online flirt fest. I was so hurt and wounded. My husband was mortified! We cried together all day he was so upset he did what he did, I was so shocked and I believed him when he said nothing had happened. He even called her on the phone in front of me and broke off all ties. I was relieved and thought if this is our only down in 15 years I could live with it. Well, guess what? The thoughts were still there about him not being happy. The enemy was still putting in his head that he could never find happiness here with me so Satan dropped someone else not much longer that was also online. This person was more than willing to be the other woman. I knew nothing. This affair was basically going on under my nose. Oh the betrayal! I had no idea. I found out by accident of course and immediately said I wanted a divorce. He denied it but I had proof and so eventually he relented and said yes he did. He looked stuck but didn’t say he would stop which was fine with me, I wanted out. I was so mortified and so shocked I went the very next day to get on anti-anxiety meds. I thought the tears would never stop. I also went to see a Christian counselor and she said “what if this one thing was the worst there is in all the years of marriage you’ve had?” I thought about that and told my H I would give him another chance and forgive him. He said “thank you but I’m still going to talk to this other person.” WHAT? Oh my GOSH I’m wounded and bleeding here and I’m telling you I will give you a second chance and you throw that back at me? Unbelievable I was dumbstruck. I couldn’t believe it. We were almost at 16 years now and He was choosing the affair over his wife? I lashed out, begged, pleaded, condemned, verbally abused and physically lashed out at my husband for a month! He was still in the house and I would catch him texting this person or going outside to text or chat with. I couldn’t take the blatant disrespect. I could not believe who my husband had turned into. It was like Dr. Jekyl Mr. Hyde. I didn’t know him anymore it seemed. Someone had taken him captive (and it was – Satan had taken him captive – 2 Timothy 2:26). I even asked him do you still love me. He said yes but I’m not IN love with you. Ouch. Some days he was in tears over what he was doing other times he was aloof distant and arrogant almost. It was surreal to watch, After a month of that, he left. He said “this isn’t working for me” and left. I said “well of course it’s not working, you’re still pursuing the affair!” and I physically lashed out again for one good measure. Ticked off is not the word. I felt rejected and treated like garbage. I was obsessed with thinking of how I could get even. I figured out who the other person was and contemplated about sending them a nasty email. I wanted EVERYONE to know what had been done to me and I wanted him to feel HORRIBLE. I kept hearing a voice saying “I’m not done with you both yet.” I didn’t know at the time God was trying to get my attention but because I was so focused on being revengeful and focusing on what had occurred, I didn’t pay attention. I didn’t WANT to pay attention. I started going online to the midlife crisis forums and venting there about what was happening and found out about Rejoice Ministries. I did not want to hear anything they said either. I just wanted to make my husband pay for what he did to me. About   this time my husband has moved out and I really almost had an emotional breakdown.  Everything he took with him left a gaping hole where things had once been. Our home did not feel like a home and our kids were so affected (another fuel to my anger) and hurt and sad. My husband’s blinders were on so tight he wouldn’t even talk to me about their pain.  He was still very much a part of their lives but he would not talk about what was happening to them (the guilt was too overwhelming to do so).  Emotions were off limits and he tried to pretend that things would get better with time. At this time I’m starting my stand. I put my ring back on and I laid my husband at the foot of the cross and took my hands off him.  I knew God would bring him home, not me or my attempts to guilt him into waking up. I was reading my bible and praying throughout the day and even praying and sharing with our children that God would restore our family and that they’d witness the power of prayer. I went back to everyone I had ever said anything negative to about my spouse and told them to pray for us and him and that God was going to do a miracle.  I decided  to not listen to what the world says  which is “move on, you deserve  someone else, people can’t change unless  they want to” and listen to  God and trust Him that He’d touch my husband  and heal him. God gave me so many signs to keep standing. On rejoice ministries people talk of seeing a COVENANT truck as a sign of encouragement to stand for their covenant spouse. I looked up the company and realized I’d never see one as they don’t travel through my area.  It was about 2 weeks later when I saw a red truck pulling a long white trailer. I was waiting to turn right at a corner and they were turning left ever so slowly. I was annoyed. I had to wait for this longgggggggg Ford truck to turn pulling this longgggggggg white trailer.   When they finally got fully around I pulled behind them at the light.  I burst out laughing out loud; the back of the trailer was completely bare with nothing on it but the word COVENANT at the bottom. I just put my hands up and praised God for the sign. Every time I saw my spouse I was hoping to see his ring back on. I never did.  He was polite but kept his distance when around me. I noticed new clothing, a new style of dress.  He often would not meet my eyes and would come over and leave so quickly at times. Other times he’d take 20 minutes to get out the door.  I always thought it was because he was thinking of asking to have something else to take out of the house. Now I know otherwise. A   letter came in the mail – he had withdrawn money from his 401k.  I was   LIVID! I wanted to pick up the phone and confront him because I didn’t   know if we were going to divorce and that 401k money was partly mine   legally but God placed it on my heart TO BE STILL so I kept quiet.   Father’s Day was coming. I didn’t know what to do.  He had the kids for   the weekend so I prayed about giving him a card.  God gave me peace   about doing so and so I put his card in one of the kids’ overnight bags.   He contacted me and said thank you for the card. I was shocked.   I was going to church that Sunday and asked if he wanted to meet me there with the kids. He agreed.  DOUBLE SHOCKED.  He came to church with the kids and wow, when God wants to get a message to you he will get it to you. The sermon was on THE PRODIGAL SON and they speaker spoke about how there are so many prodigals out there. Children who have left their homes to run away and FATHERS & MOTHERS WHO HAVE LEFT THEIR FAMILIES TO PURSUE SEXUAL IMMORALITY.  WOW talk about an uncomfortable service! LOL my husband was sitting next to me, we looked like a happy family if you didn’t know what was going on but he was fidgeting the entire time. I invited him over for 4th of July. He declined and sent me a visitation schedule for the month and said maybe this would help make a smooth transition so we’d have less contact.  My heart sank. Because of the kids we had a lot of contact, now it seemed we would not.  I still knew God would do what he wanted to do.  Our 16th anniversary came and the Holy Spirit told me “get him a card” I prayed for God to help me find the perfect card and have never looked so hard for one in all my life. I think I visited 3 Hallmark stores and went to 2 different Targets and a Papyrus! LOL I finally found the “perfect card” and when I went to check-out, the cashier read the card, I remember thinking “how RUDE!” and then she said “wow this is the perfect card!” Wow, thank you God for confirming that for me. I sent him a text and asked if he could meet me in the parking lot of his apartment and gave him the card.  He had nothing for me but I had prayed that God would send 10 prodigals home in lieu of my spouse having something for me for our anniversary.   About 20 min later he sent me a text and said Happy Anniversary . Thank you, I didn’t forget.  A week later he asked me out. It’s been almost 7m now since that date and slowly but surely things are coming out.  My H often says “I think back to last summer and I just shake my head.” I even asked him once something he said that was particularly painful and he said ‘I said that? When?”,  It’s like he doesn’t even remember which  fortifies  what they say at Rejoice Ministries, Satan is their mouthpiece  when  they’re in sin. My H as told me about 3 times a week (it was every day at first) “thank you for standing in the gap” and   “I’m so glad I’m home.”  He said he had no peace and there was a   constant chatter in his head.  I asked him when he knew he should be at home and he said “as soon as I left but I was too prideful to return right away.”  Just recently (and I might have shared this in another post) he said “I am so sorry I fell prey to the deceit of believing what I had with someone else I didn’t have with you. It took me hitting the ground off the slippery slope to realize I already had that x100.” Wow. God wants to speak to you. He won’t tell you EVERYTHING because His ways are not our ways but He will give you insight. I remember when my spouse was gone, the Holy Spirit told me, “he will not return longing or craving or missing the other person but he will return full of guilt and shame.” I almost fell out of my chair one day when my husband said out the blue, “I hope you know I’m not missing craving or longing to be with.  And oh boy did he have shame. I think the first 60 days he sat around the house like a deer in headlights. He looked shell shocked. It was heartbreaking to see. I share this not to brag, oh no.   Not at all. I pray no one feels that way. I share this because I know this is a testimony for others to gain strength from and stand just the way others testimonies have done for me.  My testimony does not match theirs and yours will not match mine. It will be unique and different so it will reach people who need to hear what you went through.  I can honestly say with all my heart I would go back to day one just to get where I am with God now. I was a Christian before but I was a baby Christian. I did not   know God’s word; I did not really know what God could or would do. I did not know God would speak to me. I did not really know that God has a plan for me even in the midst of my pain and confusion. That he would work out all the kinks and straighten it all out. Not in my timing and not my way but in His way and his way is PERFECT. For  I  know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to  prosper  you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  …  Jeremiah 29:11 I pray this testimony will be a blessing to someone.  I leave you with my favorite scripture Proverbs 3:5-7 and a prayer I prayed every day because I wanted God to fight this battle for me in the spiritual realm: Psalm 35. Also Google “marriage restoration prayers” there are many out there already written up that you can pray with your spouses name in them with scripture.   Pray Hosea 2:6 over your spouses caught in the deception of adultery.   Ask God to strengthen the hedge and to bound God’s commandments around their neck and write it in their hearts. To watch over them when they’re sleeping and guide them during the day. Trust and know God is doing it.  He goes after his lost sheep and who is more lost than a prodigal spouse? 1 Peter 5:8 says: “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” He wants to devour families and marriages. Stand alert! Put on the armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) over yourself, your spouse and your children. Blessings to you all.

PERSEVERANCE CONTINUED

"Perseverance is the hardwork you do after you get tired of doing the hardwork you already did "(Newt Gingrich) -----> Perseverance produces understanding. What you don't stick with you will never understand. There's always a pattern to everything, there is a pattern to your marriage, your wife & your husband. All you need to do is stick long enough to discover it. I discovered from personal experience that PERSEVERANCE BIRTHS UNDERSTANDING. Visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com for our previous write ups on Holding on to that marriage ..... and read the story of a woman who held on long enough to secure victory http://eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com/2013/02/how-to-hold-on.html&#160 Tomorrow is our When Women Pray (WWP)  session, remember to send in your prayer points to homebuilderssn@gmail.com or if there's a family or marriage you want us to interceed for. To join the WWP & become an intercessor, send a mail to the above mail address..... Eyitemi Adebowale is an author, public speaker and a relationship /marriage coach working with Single Women and Young Wives who are new to the home building process. She is the Founder of HOME BUILDERS INTERNATIONAL whose vision is to build homes one wise woman at a time. She’s also a lifestyle writer for naija parrots. She is happily married to Adesoji Adebowale and they are blessed with a child. For more of our articles visit www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com and register your email address to receive our updates in your box For questions, enquiries, or comments, send a mail to homebuilderssn@gmail.com You can also follow on twitter @homebuilders012 ® Home Builders International                              ........preserve, prepare and build