HOW TO BUILD: THE PROVERBS 31 WOMANS BLUE PRINT

As a sequel to my previous article "BUILD IN DEEDS" you'll remember I mentioned that building or to be a "Home Builder" requires action; deliberate, concrete & visible doing.
Now its not enough for us to know we need to build or be willing to build,we need to know "how to" build and build successfully.
A wise man once said" the best ways to achieve success is by standing on the shoulders of those who have gone ahead of us"
Home Building is no different. It comes without argument God himself is the founder of the great institution called "Marriage" and He knows the best way to build. After going through scriptures and meditating on how God expects

us to be doing this home building business, the Holy Spirit to someone, a woman who was an active Home Builder, and a successful one at that. In fact, she was so successful that an eulogy of her and her achievements were written in the Holy Book (Bible)
Yes I am talking about the Proverbs 31 woman. She has been the perfect model since time immemorial and she will continually be for many generations to come.
In this series we will be exploring how to build our homes using this exceptional woman's method as a blue print.

1. SHE BUILDS HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER HUSBAND:
(Proverbs 31:12) " She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her" (AMP)
Countless times I have heard women speak about and treat their husbands as though he doesn't matter, especially when there are children in the picture.
Of course I believe that our children are our investments and our future. Without a doubt, they are the ones to be there for us when we are all old and grey, they are the ones to continue our legacy and they are proof that we once were; thus they are very important. That being said,we forget very quickly that these children were not a product of our own singular effort. And before they ever came into existence, our husbands were.
Asides situations where we have irresponsible men who will not live up to their husbandly and fatherly responsibilities, (in such cases, I advise women to pay close attention to their children, while trusting God for a change in their husbands) your husband should be priority 1.
Just like the Proverbs 31 woman, she built her home successfully by FIRST: " building her relationship with her husband". I honestly believe that is wisdom because if there's anything I've learnt from over 5 years of marriage, is that a marriage without the support of your better half, is misery.
The Proverbs 31 woman knew that and she made " building her relationship with her husband" her first point of call.
The question then is, "how did she build that relationship?"
The scripture above (Prov 31:12) tells us exactly how.
---> Comfort Him: to comfort your husband means to soothe him, make him feel relaxed, to cheer him up. Each time you fail to evoke these emotions from your husband, you are destroying, not building. You presence and company should make your husband feel comforted/ relaxed. The same applies to the environment of your home. Keep your environment tidy, clean and welcoming, let him feel the difference between his work environment and the home front each time he arrives. If you husband cannot associate you or your home to comfort, then you're no different from the foolish woman who tears down.
--->Encourage Him: To encourage means to support him, inspire confidence in him, to promote him. In building your relationship with your husband, you need to be his No 1 and most supportive fan. Its also imbedded in your JD(job description) as a helper or help meet. You will successfully build your relationship with your husband, when you support his dreams, goals, and careers.
---> Do him Good: There are no limitations to how much good you ought to do to your husband. The long and short of this is to treat your husband right, be kind to him, pamper him, don't deprive him and most importantly as difficult as this may sound, even when he wrongs you, don't pay evil for evil or insults for insults. ( I learnt this the hard way with my own marriage) 1Peter 3:9
Other versions of Proverbs 31:12 says that " she does him good all the days of her life" not only when he's good to her, or when he deserves it, "ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE"
Like I mentioned earlier, building a home is no easy task, but knowing how to and what to do makes it easier.
Join me next week, as we continue to explore this series on "HOW TO BUILD : Using the Proverbs 31 woman blueprint.

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