ARE YOU READY "FOR MARRIAGE

7 SIGNS YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE For most ladies, marriage is something that is kooked forward to with so much expectations. As a matter of fact, we focus so much on the institution that we forget to examine ourselves to determine our readiness. I cant tell you all you need to know about marriage, but I cant definately help you examine yourself to determine your readiness. For the purpose of this article, I will point out 7 signs that tell of a woman who is not ready for Marriage. # 1. You're afraid of starting from scratch; This is a big deal and in most cases the reality of most marriages. If you are under the assumption that your Marriage will pick up from the current status You're on in your parents house, then it's high time you woke up. Marriage is not a Call to poverty, but its a call to the building of a new future. In most cases your partner is just starting in his journey to making something out of his life. @ this stage he requires your partnership, perseverance & courage even in the face of the unknown. If the thought of this scares you, then yo might just not be ready for Marriage. # 2. You have trust issues ; There are so many ladies with this issues. They simply find it difficult to trust people (men especially) . While it's understandable that some of have had negative experiences, it does not change the fact that there are still good men out there. You won't go far in Marriage if you can't learn to trust your mate. Trust is the bedrock of every successfull Marriage. If You're the type who scrutinizes every move, giving interpretation to everything & can't take him for his word then You're not ready. # 3. Your allegiance is to & will always be to your Friends and Family; This is no joke & must be treated with the utmost level of seriousness. I won't mince my words because this is the root cause of most problems in marriages. Your allegiance must be to your husband first after God. You must be ready to forsake all other ties. I'm not saying you should abandon your family, but your loyalty must be FIRST to your husband. If you can't do that, forget Marriage. # 4. You find it difficult to forgive : Forgiveness is key in Marriage because your spouse will most certainly wrong you from time. Now that You're single is the time to cultivate the habit of letting go. If You're the type that they need to invite the elders to beg all the time..........You're on your own O! # 5. You believe in law are witches who should be kept abay; vAs a young lady it was not uncommon to hear my Friends wish or pray their potential inlaws dead. There was & there's still a general believe that inlaws were the undoing of most marriages. Whether it's as a result of what nollywood is showing us or the stories we hear, what I can say is this : if you want to get married, you must be ready to embrace & accept your inlaws. They are an essential part of your to-be husband 's life. # 6. If school or career is your priority: Marriage is an entirely different ball game that will place a lot of demand on you. For your Marriage to work especially as a woman you must be ready to adjust your priorities. Your husband & children must become your Number 1. If your priority is to pursue a career. Then pause those Marriage plans for now because the 2 Don't go hand in hand. # 7. If you can't stop talking about your ex: This is very very very very very annoying. It simply shows that you have not gotten over your ex, you are not ready to move on ,you will always use your ex as a bench mark for your current relationship & of course, you're not a serious person. A lot of factors come into play when it comes to Marriage, and if you exhibit any of these signs or your partner does........ You know what it means. Eyitemi The Home Builder @ Home Builders our goal is to prepare, preserve & build homes. Helping you be the best you're created to be in your relationship. Email : homebuilderssn@gmail.com Twitter: @temmynikan Website: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com Listen to our broadcast : www.soundcloud.com/eyitemi-adebowale FB Group : Home Builders Resource Centre. Telephone : 08167303190

ARE YOU READY "FOR MARRIAGE

7 SIGNS YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE For most ladies, marriage is something that is kooked forward to with so much expectations. As a matter of fact, we focus so much on the institution that we forget to examine ourselves to determine our readiness. I cant tell you all you need to know about marriage, but I cant definately help you examine yourself to determine your readiness. For the purpose of this article, I will point out 7 signs that tell of a woman who is not ready for Marriage. # 1. You're afraid of starting from scratch; This is a big deal and in most cases the reality of most marriages. If you are under the assumption that your Marriage will pick up from the current status You're on in your parents house, then it's high time you woke up. Marriage is not a Call to poverty, but its a call to the building of a new future. In most cases your partner is just starting in his journey to making something out of his life. @ this stage he requires your partnership, perseverance & courage even in the face of the unknown. If the thought of this scares you, then yo might just not be ready for Marriage. # 2. You have trust issues ; There are so many ladies with this issues. They simply find it difficult to trust people (men especially) . While it's understandable that some of have had negative experiences, it does not change the fact that there are still good men out there. You won't go far in Marriage if you can't learn to trust your mate. Trust is the bedrock of every successfull Marriage. If You're the type who scrutinizes every move, giving interpretation to everything & can't take him for his word then You're not ready. # 3. Your allegiance is to & will always be to your Friends and Family; This is no joke & must be treated with the utmost level of seriousness. I won't mince my words because this is the root cause of most problems in marriages. Your allegiance must be to your husband first after God. You must be ready to forsake all other ties. I'm not saying you should abandon your family, but your loyalty must be FIRST to your husband. If you can't do that, forget Marriage. # 4. You find it difficult to forgive : Forgiveness is key in Marriage because your spouse will most certainly wrong you from time. Now that You're single is the time to cultivate the habit of letting go. If You're the type that they need to invite the elders to beg all the time..........You're on your own O! # 5. You believe in law are witches who should be kept abay; vAs a young lady it was not uncommon to hear my Friends wish or pray their potential inlaws dead. There was & there's still a general believe that inlaws were the undoing of most marriages. Whether it's as a result of what nollywood is showing us or the stories we hear, what I can say is this : if you want to get married, you must be ready to embrace & accept your inlaws. They are an essential part of your to-be husband 's life. # 6. If school or career is your priority: Marriage is an entirely different ball game that will place a lot of demand on you. For your Marriage to work especially as a woman you must be ready to adjust your priorities. Your husband & children must become your Number 1. If your priority is to pursue a career. Then pause those Marriage plans for now because the 2 Don't go hand in hand. # 7. If you can't stop talking about your ex: This is very very very very very annoying. It simply shows that you have not gotten over your ex, you are not ready to move on ,you will always use your ex as a bench mark for your current relationship & of course, you're not a serious person. A lot of factors come into play when it comes to Marriage, and if you exhibit any of these signs or your partner does........ You know what it means. Eyitemi The Home Builder @ Home Builders our goal is to prepare, preserve & build homes. Helping you be the best you're created to be in your relationship. Email : homebuilderssn@gmail.com Twitter: @temmynikan Website: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com Listen to our broadcast : www.soundcloud.com/eyitemi-adebowale FB Group : Home Builders Resource Centre. Telephone : 08167303190

ARE YOU READY "FOR MARRIAGE

7 SIGNS YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE For most ladies, marriage is something that is kooked forward to with so much expectations. As a matter of fact, we focus so much on the institution that we forget to examine ourselves to determine our readiness. I cant tell you all you need to know about marriage, but I cant definately help you examine yourself to determine your readiness. For the purpose of this article, I will point out 7 signs that tell of a woman who is not ready for Marriage. # 1. You're afraid of starting from scratch; This is a big deal and in most cases the reality of most marriages. If you are under the assumption that your Marriage will pick up from the current status You're on in your parents house, then it's high time you woke up. Marriage is not a Call to poverty, but its a call to the building of a new future. In most cases your partner is just starting in his journey to making something out of his life. @ this stage he requires your partnership, perseverance & courage even in the face of the unknown. If the thought of this scares you, then yo might just not be ready for Marriage. # 2. You have trust issues ; There are so many ladies with this issues. They simply find it difficult to trust people (men especially) . While it's understandable that some of have had negative experiences, it does not change the fact that there are still good men out there. You won't go far in Marriage if you can't learn to trust your mate. Trust is the bedrock of every successfull Marriage. If You're the type who scrutinizes every move, giving interpretation to everything & can't take him for his word then You're not ready. # 3. Your allegiance is to & will always be to your Friends and Family; This is no joke & must be treated with the utmost level of seriousness. I won't mince my words because this is the root cause of most problems in marriages. Your allegiance must be to your husband first after God. You must be ready to forsake all other ties. I'm not saying you should abandon your family, but your loyalty must be FIRST to your husband. If you can't do that, forget Marriage. # 4. You find it difficult to forgive : Forgiveness is key in Marriage because your spouse will most certainly wrong you from time. Now that You're single is the time to cultivate the habit of letting go. If You're the type that they need to invite the elders to beg all the time..........You're on your own O! # 5. You believe in law are witches who should be kept abay; vAs a young lady it was not uncommon to hear my Friends wish or pray their potential inlaws dead. There was & there's still a general believe that inlaws were the undoing of most marriages. Whether it's as a result of what nollywood is showing us or the stories we hear, what I can say is this : if you want to get married, you must be ready to embrace & accept your inlaws. They are an essential part of your to-be husband 's life. # 6. If school or career is your priority: Marriage is an entirely different ball game that will place a lot of demand on you. For your Marriage to work especially as a woman you must be ready to adjust your priorities. Your husband & children must become your Number 1. If your priority is to pursue a career. Then pause those Marriage plans for now because the 2 Don't go hand in hand. # 7. If you can't stop talking about your ex: This is very very very very very annoying. It simply shows that you have not gotten over your ex, you are not ready to move on ,you will always use your ex as a bench mark for your current relationship & of course, you're not a serious person. A lot of factors come into play when it comes to Marriage, and if you exhibit any of these signs or your partner does........ You know what it means. Eyitemi The Home Builder @ Home Builders our goal is to prepare, preserve & build homes. Helping you be the best you're created to be in your relationship. Email : homebuilderssn@gmail.com Twitter: @temmynikan Website: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com Listen to our broadcast : www.soundcloud.com/eyitemi-adebowale FB Group : Home Builders Resource Centre. Telephone : 08167303190

ARE YOU READY "FOR MARRIAGE

7 SIGNS YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE For most ladies, marriage is something that is kooked forward to with so much expectations. As a matter of fact, we focus so much on the institution that we forget to examine ourselves to determine our readiness. I cant tell you all you need to know about marriage, but I cant definately help you examine yourself to determine your readiness. For the purpose of this article, I will point out 7 signs that tell of a woman who is not ready for Marriage. # 1. You're afraid of starting from scratch; This is a big deal and in most cases the reality of most marriages. If you are under the assumption that your Marriage will pick up from the current status You're on in your parents house, then it's high time you woke up. Marriage is not a Call to poverty, but its a call to the building of a new future. In most cases your partner is just starting in his journey to making something out of his life. @ this stage he requires your partnership, perseverance & courage even in the face of the unknown. If the thought of this scares you, then yo might just not be ready for Marriage. # 2. You have trust issues ; There are so many ladies with this issues. They simply find it difficult to trust people (men especially) . While it's understandable that some of have had negative experiences, it does not change the fact that there are still good men out there. You won't go far in Marriage if you can't learn to trust your mate. Trust is the bedrock of every successfull Marriage. If You're the type who scrutinizes every move, giving interpretation to everything & can't take him for his word then You're not ready. # 3. Your allegiance is to & will always be to your Friends and Family; This is no joke & must be treated with the utmost level of seriousness. I won't mince my words because this is the root cause of most problems in marriages. Your allegiance must be to your husband first after God. You must be ready to forsake all other ties. I'm not saying you should abandon your family, but your loyalty must be FIRST to your husband. If you can't do that, forget Marriage. # 4. You find it difficult to forgive : Forgiveness is key in Marriage because your spouse will most certainly wrong you from time. Now that You're single is the time to cultivate the habit of letting go. If You're the type that they need to invite the elders to beg all the time..........You're on your own O! # 5. You believe in law are witches who should be kept abay; vAs a young lady it was not uncommon to hear my Friends wish or pray their potential inlaws dead. There was & there's still a general believe that inlaws were the undoing of most marriages. Whether it's as a result of what nollywood is showing us or the stories we hear, what I can say is this : if you want to get married, you must be ready to embrace & accept your inlaws. They are an essential part of your to-be husband 's life. # 6. If school or career is your priority: Marriage is an entirely different ball game that will place a lot of demand on you. For your Marriage to work especially as a woman you must be ready to adjust your priorities. Your husband & children must become your Number 1. If your priority is to pursue a career. Then pause those Marriage plans for now because the 2 Don't go hand in hand. # 7. If you can't stop talking about your ex: This is very very very very very annoying. It simply shows that you have not gotten over your ex, you are not ready to move on ,you will always use your ex as a bench mark for your current relationship & of course, you're not a serious person. A lot of factors come into play when it comes to Marriage, and if you exhibit any of these signs or your partner does........ You know what it means. Eyitemi The Home Builder @ Home Builders our goal is to prepare, preserve & build homes. Helping you be the best you're created to be in your relationship. Email : homebuilderssn@gmail.com Twitter: @temmynikan Website: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com Listen to our broadcast : www.soundcloud.com/eyitemi-adebowale FB Group : Home Builders Resource Centre. Telephone : 08167303190

HOW TO BE FOUND ( being in the right place @ the right time)

4. BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME : This is very critical because our God is a God of timing. When Abraham's servant was asked to find a wife for Isaac, don't forget that he got there in the evening when the girls were coming out to fetch water. Our very own Rebecca happened to be going about her regular duties. The evening time was when most girls fetched from the well and she happened to be in her rightfull place at that time. So many ladies are busy doing nothing. There is a time for everything ; just make sure you are doing what you are supposed to be doing per time & God will take Care of the rest. Imagine if Rebbecca & Ruth had decided to sleep or go visiting when they should have been working? God is the ultimate compass so, in all of this ask him to other your steps by time..... and he will.

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HOW TO BE FOUND

Like we established yesterday, the focus should shift from searching for the right person to being found by the right person. In the quest to being found........ 1. PRAYER : your prater here has to be on point with God. You have to tell God to make you conspicuos or "findable ". There are a million and one girls like you who want to be found and who deserve to be found. Only the God factor can make the ultimate difference. Don't take this background for granted because nothing happens in the physical without first being settled in the spiritual. The Bible says Daniel was 10 times better than his peers.........that means his peers were good but good was not enough. Being better is what got Daniel noticed. Tell God that every cloak designed by the enemy to keep you hidden should be consumed by the Holyghost. Once that is settled the rest is a workover. 2. PREPARE YOURSELF : Esther did not meet with the King until she was ready. She had been prepared by Hegai the Eunuch & when the time came she met with the King. Truth is that God will not give you what you cannot handle. The Bible records that Esther met with the King in the 7th year. I often ask myself who decided when each girl met with the King? I strongly believe God took Esther there when he saw she was ready. Being ready means to prepare yourself for the kind of man you're expecting to find you. If you desire a hardworking & productive man then you must be the same. If you want a Prince then you must reflect royalty. They say that " success is when preparation meets opportunity ". Will you be prepared when your opportunity (right man) comes along? Eyitemi The Home Builder Follow me on twitter @temmynikan Or enjoy our daily broadcast on BB by adding me on 22FEAA9A You can also join our FaceBook page "Home Builders Support Network"

PROJECT PRESERVED & PREPARED ……..sending a message to the future.

I once read a quote that said, “Children are the messages we send into a future we will not see”. Looking at our society today, our world is full of so many wrongs and vices and it worries me when I think about the message we will be sending to the future. How the future will judge us depends on what we do today. These days, we as individuals, parents and the society at large have left a lot to time and chance; especially as it concerns the future of our teenage girls. We complain about the women we have become today, yet we ignore the ones in the making for tomorrow. Whether we admit it or not, the teenage years are full of pressures that can make or mar a destiny. Joseph faced his with Potiphar’s wife, (Gen 39:7-12) David faced his when he had the access to kill Saul, (1Samuel 24:4-7) but the decision to say no is what secured their destiny. In a society perverted by sexual immorality, there’s a need to take our young girls from the clutches of evil, into the Harlem where they will be prepared for the palace. (Esther 2:17) This is where Project Preserved and Prepared comes in. We take our guide from the life of Esther and we see that the young girl was preserved by her uncle Mordecia, (Esther 2:7) prepared by the Eunuch Hegai (Esther 2:9) and ultimately chosen by the king (Esther 2:17). Just like the name depicts, our goal is to preserve and prepare the next generation of godly and well rounded women who will get it right; develop healthy relationships, bed undefiled with God at the centre of it. We are saying NO to low self esteem and sexual immorality in our teenage girls. Our goal is simple: to preserve and prepare the next generation of godly and well rounded women who will get it right; develop healthy relationships, bed undefiled with God at the centre of it. Our mission is well defined: to pursue, overtake and recover our young girls from the influence of sexual immorality We are calling on everyone who wants to join us in sending the right message to the future. Preserved & Prepared wants to raise women who will develop healthy relationships with the opposite sex and make a choice to remain preserved and remain Sexually Pure until the right time. Our own generation as failed us….. It’s our duty not to fail ours. Target: 150 teenage girls in 7 days (December 17th -23rd ) This project, we require as many volunteers as we can get. What you have, or what you give is not what counts…. What matters most is joining in sending a message to our future. To be a part of this campaign

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