ARE YOU READY "FOR MARRIAGE

7 SIGNS YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE For most ladies, marriage is something that is kooked forward to with so much expectations. As a matter of fact, we focus so much on the institution that we forget to examine ourselves to determine our readiness. I cant tell you all you need to know about marriage, but I cant definately help you examine yourself to determine your readiness. For the purpose of this article, I will point out 7 signs that tell of a woman who is not ready for Marriage. # 1. You're afraid of starting from scratch; This is a big deal and in most cases the reality of most marriages. If you are under the assumption that your Marriage will pick up from the current status You're on in your parents house, then it's high time you woke up. Marriage is not a Call to poverty, but its a call to the building of a new future. In most cases your partner is just starting in his journey to making something out of his life. @ this stage he requires your partnership, perseverance & courage even in the face of the unknown. If the thought of this scares you, then yo might just not be ready for Marriage. # 2. You have trust issues ; There are so many ladies with this issues. They simply find it difficult to trust people (men especially) . While it's understandable that some of have had negative experiences, it does not change the fact that there are still good men out there. You won't go far in Marriage if you can't learn to trust your mate. Trust is the bedrock of every successfull Marriage. If You're the type who scrutinizes every move, giving interpretation to everything & can't take him for his word then You're not ready. # 3. Your allegiance is to & will always be to your Friends and Family; This is no joke & must be treated with the utmost level of seriousness. I won't mince my words because this is the root cause of most problems in marriages. Your allegiance must be to your husband first after God. You must be ready to forsake all other ties. I'm not saying you should abandon your family, but your loyalty must be FIRST to your husband. If you can't do that, forget Marriage. # 4. You find it difficult to forgive : Forgiveness is key in Marriage because your spouse will most certainly wrong you from time. Now that You're single is the time to cultivate the habit of letting go. If You're the type that they need to invite the elders to beg all the time..........You're on your own O! # 5. You believe in law are witches who should be kept abay; vAs a young lady it was not uncommon to hear my Friends wish or pray their potential inlaws dead. There was & there's still a general believe that inlaws were the undoing of most marriages. Whether it's as a result of what nollywood is showing us or the stories we hear, what I can say is this : if you want to get married, you must be ready to embrace & accept your inlaws. They are an essential part of your to-be husband 's life. # 6. If school or career is your priority: Marriage is an entirely different ball game that will place a lot of demand on you. For your Marriage to work especially as a woman you must be ready to adjust your priorities. Your husband & children must become your Number 1. If your priority is to pursue a career. Then pause those Marriage plans for now because the 2 Don't go hand in hand. # 7. If you can't stop talking about your ex: This is very very very very very annoying. It simply shows that you have not gotten over your ex, you are not ready to move on ,you will always use your ex as a bench mark for your current relationship & of course, you're not a serious person. A lot of factors come into play when it comes to Marriage, and if you exhibit any of these signs or your partner does........ You know what it means. Eyitemi The Home Builder @ Home Builders our goal is to prepare, preserve & build homes. Helping you be the best you're created to be in your relationship. Email : homebuilderssn@gmail.com Twitter: @temmynikan Website: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com Listen to our broadcast : www.soundcloud.com/eyitemi-adebowale FB Group : Home Builders Resource Centre. Telephone : 08167303190