POSITIVITY AND POSSIBILTY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
One of the books I read as a teenager many years on Positive Thinking left me geared up.
I felt invincible and as though there was absolutely nothing impossible for me to do.
Why? Simply because I have encountered a paradigm shift and was seeing thing from a positive and possibility point of view.
How nice would that be, if we could take this attitude of possibility and positivity to our homes and marriages, especially before you say "I DO"
On a TV programme I watched recently, a young bride was about to get married,and this was what her mother had to say while counselling her;
" Remember if anything goes wrong, if he disrepests you and you feel you can't cope anylonger, you can always come back home. There will always be a place for you here back @ home"As comforting as this counsel might sound, it absolutely wrong and equally disturbing.
If everyone entered marriage with this mindset, then most families would have disintegrated.Marriage is the 1st and oldest institution God created.
The success of Societies, Countries and the World @ large depends on the success of these institution; as such Marriage Must work.
Marriages like every other relationship has its up an down, but an Possibility and Positivity mindset regardless of the obvious makes all the difference.
Being Positive, opens up your mind to different possibilities ;whether you're married or about to be
--->Have it @ the back of mind that this marriage must survive come what may.
--->Have it @ the back of your mind that every challenge is temporary, its a phase and it will pass
--->Have it @ the back of your mind that there's always a way out of every challenges you're going through.
According to the words of Demi Lovato,"
No matter what you're going through, there's a light at the end of the tunnel and it may seem hard to get to it but you can do it and just keep working towards it and you'll find the positive side of things."
Staying positive in challenging times is not easy but there are 2 ways to do this;
--->Firstly, when the avalanche of challenges come rolling down, STRIVE to look for the positive in that/those situation. Its often said, I believe it that the every problem, has its own seed of solution in it.
I capitalized the word "STRIVE" because these solutions are not seen unless you search for it. There is always some good in every challenge. Your positivity will be re-enforced when you identify the good in the seemingly bad
---->Secondly, keeping your eyes on the light @ the end of the tunnels, can also keep your positivity alive.
Do you remember the attitude our Lord Jesus Christ put up while he was being crucified?How he forgave his persecutors, how he manged to stay calm all throught the beating, flogging and torture?
He knew a greater glory laid ahead of him.
He was going to win a crown for his sacrifice, he would earn a place @ the right hand side of God the Father,
His Name would be elevated above every other name in the world.
The Bible says he endured the cross and despised the shame because of the glory that was ahead.(Heb 12:2)
To stay positive, identify the good in the situation, and keep your eyes on the prize.
Every marriage can survive, if given a fair fighting chance.Don't give up on that marriage, explore all options.
Permit to say @ this point that in the case of Physical abuse, seek help. Your marriage can only have a chance while you're still alive......
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E-mail: homebuilderssn@gmail.com
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Eyitemi Adebowale
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One of the books I read as a teenager many years on Positive Thinking left me geared up.
I felt invincible and as though there was absolutely nothing impossible for me to do.
Why? Simply because I have encountered a paradigm shift and was seeing thing from a positive and possibility point of view.
How nice would that be, if we could take this attitude of possibility and positivity to our homes and marriages, especially before you say "I DO"
On a TV programme I watched recently, a young bride was about to get married,and this was what her mother had to say while counselling her;
" Remember if anything goes wrong, if he disrepests you and you feel you can't cope anylonger, you can always come back home. There will always be a place for you here back @ home"As comforting as this counsel might sound, it absolutely wrong and equally disturbing.
If everyone entered marriage with this mindset, then most families would have disintegrated.Marriage is the 1st and oldest institution God created.
The success of Societies, Countries and the World @ large depends on the success of these institution; as such Marriage Must work.
Marriages like every other relationship has its up an down, but an Possibility and Positivity mindset regardless of the obvious makes all the difference.
Being Positive, opens up your mind to different possibilities ;whether you're married or about to be
--->Have it @ the back of mind that this marriage must survive come what may.
--->Have it @ the back of your mind that every challenge is temporary, its a phase and it will pass
--->Have it @ the back of your mind that there's always a way out of every challenges you're going through.
According to the words of Demi Lovato,"
No matter what you're going through, there's a light at the end of the tunnel and it may seem hard to get to it but you can do it and just keep working towards it and you'll find the positive side of things."
Staying positive in challenging times is not easy but there are 2 ways to do this;
--->Firstly, when the avalanche of challenges come rolling down, STRIVE to look for the positive in that/those situation. Its often said, I believe it that the every problem, has its own seed of solution in it.
I capitalized the word "STRIVE" because these solutions are not seen unless you search for it. There is always some good in every challenge. Your positivity will be re-enforced when you identify the good in the seemingly bad
---->Secondly, keeping your eyes on the light @ the end of the tunnels, can also keep your positivity alive.
Do you remember the attitude our Lord Jesus Christ put up while he was being crucified?How he forgave his persecutors, how he manged to stay calm all throught the beating, flogging and torture?
He knew a greater glory laid ahead of him.
He was going to win a crown for his sacrifice, he would earn a place @ the right hand side of God the Father,
His Name would be elevated above every other name in the world.
The Bible says he endured the cross and despised the shame because of the glory that was ahead.(Heb 12:2)
To stay positive, identify the good in the situation, and keep your eyes on the prize.
Every marriage can survive, if given a fair fighting chance.Don't give up on that marriage, explore all options.
Permit to say @ this point that in the case of Physical abuse, seek help. Your marriage can only have a chance while you're still alive......
Blog: www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com
E-mail: homebuilderssn@gmail.com
Twitter: @homebuilders012
Mobile: +2348167303190
BBM:263F7ED6
FaceBook Page: Home Builders Support Network
Eyitemi Adebowale
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