FREEBIES : WHAT SIDE OF PRICELESS ARE YOU ON? Thrashy OR Classy

Whenever I heard the word “FREEBIE”, the first thing that comes to mind like the name implies is the words- free, at no cost or without charges. Although the word “FREEBIE” is not new to me, it did not come to mind for a long time until recently. I had attended a function with my husband at the end of which guest were thrilled to good music by the DJ (Disc Jockey). While I waited for my husband so we leave, I took time to survey my environment and my eyes were again opened to a monster that had begun to consume our society. While the music played, a look around uncovered the manner in which beautiful young ladies sold of their dignity and self worth on a platter of “SLATE”. It is not the dancing that got me worried, but the ‘HOW’. I saw young ladies shaking all their shakeables, dancing se seductively and the men could not resist the touch of what was being offered to them. I know that this issue of seductive dancing is a subject whose teeth have sank deep into the fabric of the society and children have not been left out of the equation; but that’s a topic for another day and there’s a difference between knowing what is right and being ignorant of it. After a lot of thinking, I realized that even though the way of life has become a norm especially when it comes to dancing with the opposite sex, it’s no wonder to me any longer why we practice the same thing hoping to get a different result each time we try. Young ladies expect to be treated like class even when they act like thrash. When I see ladies dance that way, it only says something; they want to loved and accepted and as such they use the number 1 bait any man can hardly resist (their body) to draw them in. it’s true that the bait does its job, the men are drawn in and probably after a few days, weeks, months and even years of fooling around….. It comes to an abrupt and painful end with the men realizing that they want more….. More than the body, more than sex, more than seduction….. They want a companionship….a genuine ingredient for every relationship. Back to my experience at the function; as I waited for my husband’s return I noticed a young lady arrived. She greeted her date/ boyfriend warmly and they got talking. A little after that, the young man bought her a few drinks and that was the strike that broke down the walls of the dam. This lady began to do all sorts of things and dance in a way that implied she was showing gratitude for the drinks he had bought her. All the guy had to do was to buy a couple of drinks and she became the freebie that came with it. The case study of this young lady should be viewed in isolation but should reveal a reflection of one the many ways we (women) sell ourselves short. It’s a reflection of how much value we place on ourselves and a wake up reality call of what has become the price tag of today’s woman. If you’re reading this article right now and you are single lady, I would like you think deeply & assess yourself to see if you have ever positioned yourself as a freebie or you are currently positioning yourself as such and at what price. We have forgotten that nothing good is without value; and people are willing to pay so much for something that they perceive as being of high quality. With reference to the relationships with the opposite sex, I’m not talking about value in monetary terms. This type of value, is not quantifiable, it is intangible and cannot be readily measured. It is wrong, out of order and a sheer abuse of self worth for a lady to attached her value to her material and emotional wants and needs. I deliberately chose the word material and emotional needs because that is what most men capitalize on. The average woman trades herself worth for her basic need or greed and as such a man assumes that with the touch of the right button (meeting of a need) he can have her eating out of his fingers. If you don’t get anything out of this article, note this; anything of value worth having is worth striving for. Everyman with testosterone desires a good looking woman (married or unmarried); but that needs to be earned. A man is not entitled to have you simply because he has met one or two of your needs, because it means that any man who can meet your need can lay claim to you. Proverbs 31:10 talks about the virtuous woman whose price is far higher than rubies. Although there is not mention of how much she is actually worth, we know some things for certain; she has a price and that price is not any lower than rubies (a very very expensive jewel); something only few people can afford. Jacob is a classic example of a man who was willing to labour for 14 years for hand in marriage. And it makes me question; how do you quantify 14 years of a man’s life? Did Rachael really mean all that and much more to him? I bet he would not have gone that far if he did not perceive her value as being worth it. Remember Priceless can swing two ways; It can mean cheap, freebie and at no cost OR It can be far above rubies and difficult to quantify The side you hang on depends on you…………. To receive our broadcast daily, send your email address to homebuilderssn@gmail.com OR Follow me on twitter @homebuilders012 Visit our blog at www.eyitemithehomebuilder.blogspot.com or our facebook page : Home Builders Support Network If you would like to ask a question, need guidance or would like to share an experience, email me @ homebuilderssn@gmail.com ® Home Builders International (Preserve, Prepare & Build)